trying to do sex positive feminism w/o centering intersex ppl is how you get ppl who only know how to say "that's totally normal :)" or "your body must be broken!" in response to folks w congenital vulvovaginal variations who can't find any info on their bodies that aren't about corrective surgeries or child victims of sexual violence. it's intersex erasure. not bc everyone with XYZ will identify as intersex but bc this kinda behavior smothers any possibility of taking an intersex perspective & letting people explore that & learn more abt how intersexism affects people. a lottt of sex positive feminist resources are honestly kinda trash for intersex ppl bc perisex women don't want us to say we're intersex but also no one ever talks abt our variations or gives us any resources so. what are we supposed to do. ohhhh yeah get surgery or dilate or pelvic floor therapy that doesnt help + blame ourselves + shut up. not even getting into the crazy amnts of misgendering going on half the time. or more.