#daddy's advice

[masterbynight]

daddyyyyyy help me stretch my asshole please!! i want to make all my holes useful for daddy🥺🩷

Aw! You're so cute. First, I recommend getting a set of progressive training plugs, little one. Make sure the bases are appropriately flared because we don't want anything getting stuck up there. Start small and work up. We don't want to rush or tear anything. I know your cute little butt is eager to serve, but be gentle with yourself. Take your time and get used to the feeling.

Now, I know that once you start, that cute little butt of yours will start getting hungry for more. Make sure that if you're improvising that you stay properly cleaned and lubed. You don't have a pretty pink tongue back there to prep you, so store bought will have to do. And no matter how empty you feel, don't use anything that could get stuck or that has moving parts. One day, you might find yourself rubbing with something strange back there, brain broken as you clench and ride it. I have a miniature baseball bat that's just the right size to stretch you for me. Maybe we'll try that. But your safety comes first, little one. Always.

But most of all, I want you to have fun. There will come a time when Daddy mounts you and you'll take me so deep inside you that I never come out. There will come a time when all your holes serve me and the rest of you will follow and obey. You're already so eager. You're already imagining being double-stuffed and delirious as you fulfill your purpose. So when you sink down on your plug and feel your brains leaking out, I want you to admit why you're really doing this. Say it so we can all hear.

I am a Good Girl.

I exist to please.

[masterbynight]

When You're Non-Verbal

Sometimes Good Girls become non-verbal and it's just hard to find your words. This can be because you're too little, too tired, too stimulated or lots of other things. Here are some things that can help when words just aren't coming:

One for yes, two for no. Your partner can ask yes or no questions for essential things.

Hand squeeze means "I love you and I need you." A good way to let your partner know that you need to be held.

Signs for common things like "drink" or "sleep" or "space." Practice beforehand and your partner can be ready to give what you need.

Having ways to communicate when words fail is important for meeting your needs. Don't wait until you're in need to practice these strategies. Partners should be patient and ready to listen so they can still be helpful and supportive when the words aren't coming. Besides, it's nice that you need us. We just want to take good care of you.

[masterbynight]

Rules for (My) Subs

I have a list of rules to keep subs safe. These are somewhat inspired by my rules for me. These are to help you understand what I expect from my subs and what I think is important.

You are a whole person. You do not need to be completed. You have your own life and while I'm glad you're choosing to live it with me, you are allowed and encouraged to have parts that are just yours.

You are a Good Girl. Not because I said so but because you choose to be. I cannot take that from you. It is yours and only yours.

The door is always open. You can leave whenever you want and, more importantly, you can come back whenever you want. My love is not a prison and your peace is not a sin.

You can give up every power but this: You get the final say. I can do anything you'll let me do, but you decide if I'm your Dom, if I'm worth trusting and obeying. You get to revoke my authority, to say no, to stop everything. You don't need an excuse. You don't have to have an explanation ready. If you say stop, we stop.

Tell me what you want. Sometimes, that thing you want is a need that isn't being met. Tell me. I need to know and I want to help.

Be compassionate, kind and understanding, especially with yourself. You will make mistakes. You will have bad days, failures and setbacks. Take a breath, give yourself the benefit of the doubt, reflect and do better next time. Allow others to do the same.

Walk your own path. You cannot be anyone but you. Don't compare yourself to others or let jealousy or despair creep in. You are only competing with yourself and your goal is to be a little better each day.

Don't take criticism from anyone you wouldn't go to for advice. It is important for us to hold each other accountable because it helps us grow closer together rather than apart. But not everyone is worthy of your consideration. Cling to those who love and support you, but cleave from those who do not.

No one can be your everything, not even me. Nurture the relationships that nourish you. Have conversations, hobbies, times and places to laugh and cry and let yourself be every facet of you. Strong roots make for strong trees and strong forests. When you find your place, don't be afraid to make it yours.

Love yourself. This is the hardest one, so make sure you practice. It the process of taking care of yourself, advocating for yourself and accepting that you are worthy of a good and happy life. When the good times come, accept them. When the bad times come, hold my hand and know they will pass. This is the great work of all my Good Girls.

You're not going to follow these rules perfectly all the time, but they are here for you to strive for. More importantly, no one worthy of your trust should object to them. There more generic rules like "Respect boundaries" and more specific ones like "Make sure a friend knows who you're with, where you're going and when to expect you back," but these ten should give you a good foundation and litmus test if you're looking for a partner.

[masterbynight]

Daddy's Rules

I have a long list of rules for me. Every one of them has come from a mistake I made or someone I hurt. I do my very best not to break them because I've seen what my carelessness has done to people. Young Doms, listen up. Young subs, take notes because I still consider myself the bare minimum. Here are my top ten:

"Yes" means nothing unless "no" is a safe and easy option.

Your authority is secured by their trust. If you cannot preserve their trust, you do not deserve your authority.

Be unapologetically honest and kind. You could die at any moment, so don't let the important things go unsaid.

Never put your wants above their needs. You can go without a want but they cannot go without a need.

Their safety comes first. You have been given the lion's share of the agency, which gives you the lion's share of the responsibilities.

Never act out of anger. It undermines your authority, your sub's trust and everyone's safety.

Praise in public, scold in private. A sub's successes should be celebrated. Their failures should be kept between you and them.

Punishment is a correction, not retribution. If a punishment is not constructive, it is worthless.

Don't judge. If your sub comes to you with a problem or a mistake, don't make them feel lesser for it. If you make it clear that you aren't safe to confide in, they won't come to you for help.

Be accountable to your sub. Admit when you're wrong and strive to be better. They deserve a better Dom and you deserve a better you.

These are the big ten. I have lots of niche rules like "Don't come between partners" and "Always diffuse the brat," but those don't apply to every situation. There are companion rules for subs and even abusive behaviors I have retooled for safety, so stay tuned for those.

[masterbynight]

Today is my birthday.

I've spent the last two weeks unable to see. I slipped on a blanket two days ago and reinjured my back. Last night was the first night I was really able to see and I was stuck on the couch, barely able to move as I watched my country die. My gift this year was a resounding message from my countrymen that the people I love aren't just unwelcome here, but actively in danger.

My wife and I were holding off on having kids until we could afford to raise them. This morning she told me that the only safe and responsible way to be parents now is to adopt. She's right. I can't ask her to risk her life in case something goes wrong. Even if I could, we won't have any money once Trump's economic policies double the price of everything. What about my other partners? He promised to deport 2 million people. What does that mean for my girls who want to immigrate?

The future of my family was on the ballot. Not for the next two or four or eight years, but for the next three to five decades. My children and their children will suffer for what my neighbors did yesterday. What's even more mind boggling is that they will suffer too. This administration is going to kill people. It's going to silence people. It's going to take food out of the mouths of children and it's going to devastate this nation so thoroughly that it will be a miracle if we don't fall. There may never be a real election in this country again. But the worst part, the thing that fills me with disgust rather than dread, is that it wasn't even close.

A lot of you are going to be feeling terrible right now. A lot of you are going to be feeling scared and alone. What's worse, you likely feel helpless. I know I did. The soap box failed. The jury box failed. The ballot box failed. Now in two months, we'll have a dictator with popular support and a Supreme Court and Congress that not only won't stop him but will actively aid him. They are coming for everyone and everything we love and they are supported by an army of our own neighbors who look at us and don't see us as people. It seems hopeless, but it isn't.

The village is stronger than the king. It doesn't matter how big his army is or how rabid his followers, the country is too big to hold. We need to come together and stick together. We need to accept that if they won't treat us like people then they don't deserve the courtesy. Don't try to convince them. Don't try to make peace. Do what you have to to survive. They cannot be saved. They cannot be reasoned with. They cannot be made into human beings without a single shred of decency, so don't pretend that they're anything more than a plague. Get away. Run. As fast as you can and as far as you can. Protect yourself. Find safety in numbers. Build up your defenses and shut them out. We have to take care of each other. We have to be the anvil that breaks the hammer.

I'm not celebrating my birthday today. I'm not holding a funeral for my homeland either. I'm finding a defensible position. I'm covering a retreat. I'm doing everything I can to make sure everyone I can protect stays safe. If you're looking for a place, if you're in need of a community, I want you to know that you're safe here and that I am moving heaven and earth to bring that safe place off this screen and into the world. I'm not helpless and neither are you. We can overcome this. Together.

I'll be changing some plans around in the background here. I'll be more present in the coming days and I'll do my best not to be so negative. I want to provide a salve for the pain and ways to help yourselves and each other as things get worse. I hope you'll help me support you and that you won't let your good heart be your undoing. Until then, I leave you with the two things keeping me going:

Honor doesn't bleed.

Even monsters need to sleep.

[masterbynight]

Hello Daddy,

I wonder, how does one become your Good Girl? When do you consider someone yours? On a less serious note, I have been staring at an old old spiral down on your blog for around 30 minutes. It is quite mesmerising!

Love,

I've given this a lot of thought and the answer has many parts, depending on your definition of "mine." The short version is that being my Good Girl is a spectrum, but that requires some explanation.

While you are here, you are my responsibility. I consider you my Good Girl even if we never interact beyond you reading my words. Your pleasure, safety and well being are important to me, so they are my priority when I write. That includes Good Girls who lurk, who have partners, and who would never call me Daddy because they are exclusively someone else's. I don't lay claim to these Good Girls as a partner, but I am the Daddy of this blog and it is my responsibility to care about every Good Girl as though they were my own.

Then there are the Good Girls I interact with. You send asks. You come back to read, rub and relax. You feel me in your mind and you surrender to me, even if it's in the safety and privacy of anonymity. I'm in your head and that makes you mine. You may never submit to me directly. You may never have any desire to meet me. You may be comfortable making me the center of your sexuality some or all of the time while living an otherwise normal life. You are a part of this community and I claim you as my Good Girl because I am part of you now. You may consider yourself mine as I do, or you may continue to pretend my words haven't fundamentally changed you, but either way, I consider you mine while you are under my control.

Finally, there are my partners, the Good Girls with whom I share more intimate relationships. They undergo certain kinds of training designed specifically for them and give more than just their sexual expression to me. Many of my partners hope to join me and serve me in person. The state of the world, unfortunately, makes that a dangerous, if not lethal, proposition for some. I'm preparing them to give everything they safely can to me, including the parts they want to hide. They are mine and I intend to take over every last part of their minds and bodies until they are happy, horny, and helplessly brainwashed by me. If I understand your question, you're probably asking about this part.

For reasons I cannot explain with any brevity, my love is eternal. Once you have a place in my heart, it is yours and no one else's. That includes the people I have failed and the people I have lost. There are many boarded up rooms that are left exactly as they were for Good Girls who will never return to them. Once I love you, I love you. It doesn't stop. It doesn't change. It is as certain as the ground beneath you and the sky above. I will never stop loving you and that is not a mercy.

I am one man. I am bound by time and the weakness of a mortal body. I am not perfect and while my love is endless, my ability to show it and to survive it is not. Taking on partners is a risk, to me and to them. Not everyone is suited to me, nor I to them. There aren't enough good people in the world to go around. There are so many of you who have been mistreated, harmed and lied to. And if I could shred myself to atoms, I would if it meant that you could be loved and cared for in the way you deserve. That isn't how it works, but my instinct is to try and that means I fail. I fail to protect you, to protect myself and it ends in a boarded up room in my heart. If I'm not careful, I could get boarded up inside.

So if you want to be my Good Girl, really think about what that means to you. Understand that the closer you get, the more dangerous it becomes. You don't have to be the one who gives up your normal life to be mindfucked into blank obedience and eternal submission to me. You can be the Good Girl who spends her nights rubbing to my words or the Good Girl who is excited to tell me about your accomplishments. You can be the Good Girl who chases your own dreams because Daddy wants what's best for you. You can be the Good Girl who doesn't say anything at all and comes back just to drift in that thoughtless, orgasmic bliss. No matter what kind of Good Girl you want to be, when you are here, you are mine. That's the honest answer.

[masterbynight]

This is a reminder that your stuffies love you. The special magic that brought them into your life has given them hearts to love and care for you. Make sure you give them hugs and kisses. You're never too big for a little love.

[masterbynight]

I've had a rough week daddy, my insomnia kicked up real bad last week and I'm so sleepy and stressed 😞 I want to keep up with training my real fuckhole but my big girl brain needs to sleep, can you help me with my nap-time ?

- strawberry-skull 🍓💀

If you're having insomnia, two things might help. The first is expending energy. If you've read the response to your other ask, I'm sure you know what to do in that regard.

The second is to sleep while the sun is up. There's a certain safety and lack of pressure that comes with a daytime nap. It catches your insomnia off guard and helps you catch up on your sleep deficit.

So you're going to be a Good Girl, have an edge and a snack, then you're going to do what Daddy tells you and...

SLEEP for me.