Pros aand cons of dating a single mom who has not dated in a long, long time
Pros:
1. I have low expectations. You have to be a kind hearted person, who likes kids, and has no history of abuse or crime. I am easily impressed. You can bring me flowers (even fake ones, they won't make me sneeze and they last longer) hold the door open, and pull the chair out. Oh and punctuality is definitely a must, but anyone with adult responsibilities should be able to do that.
2. You don't have to stress to much on finances. I had to be responsible for me and my child for so long, if you can't pay for a date, I can handle it. Also, I have relaxed in wearing makeup and jewlery, so don't bother too much with buying earnings (actually don't, I had 2exes give them to me, now meaning and value is lost, and I think I lost them) save your money for an engagement ring if we get that far.
3. I'm independent and less clingy. If you don't text right away, I won't worry and think you are sneaking around.
4.I have spent my spare time reading dating advicearticles. (That could be a good thing or a bad thing)
5. Being a nerd is an advantage. You like legos? I got plenty. You like Batman? That is awesome. You like lego Batman? That is super!
Cons:
1. My time is limited. I work full time, take classes towards my masters, I have cub scout meetings to attend, and I need to work around my parent's schedule for babysitting. We need to plan dates like 2 weeks in advance.
2. Being out of dating for a while also means my whole body is not used to it. I might flinch, I might over react, or under react. (It might be like dating a virgin all over again, or something) also I might not always be in the mood. I have worked all week, plus I am “on the clock” from the time I wake up, to the time my child goes to bed.
3. I can't bring everyone home. I need to grow trust. Also, if my child meets you and gets attached, if we break up it would be a big deal. But on the other hand,I want to know if you are worth getting serious with, so how you interact with him will be considered. If I bring you home for the first time, you are special, if I bring you home a second time after meeting my son, you are extra special. If he asks “are you coming back" you are extra-extra special.
If by some miracle, I meet someone, he would have to be up for a big challenge, but he is in for something great, especially if he loves kids.