#difficult situations

[xchasingstarx]

How do I explain that my favorite HP ship is Harry's dead dad and Harry's dead godfather's dead little brother??

[lokavisi]

Last week Thurisaz ushered in some prickly news, and this week we are keeping our attention on the developing situation. These developments may be difficult to digest, but we've had time to adjust a bit from last week. We can anticipate some amount of struggle and therefore be better able to handle it. Remember that whatever you are shielding as a result of this situation needs to be properly identified and intentionally protected. Really contemplate and know what is at the true heart center of the matter for you that requires extra love and attention. Protecting that is what will get you through to the end, regardless of what happens. It is how you'll best weather the storm.

For example: Say last week you lost your job. This week, identify how this impacted you at your core. Did it severely affect finances in a way that prevents you from doing important and meaningful things for you? Protect your ability to do what feeds your soul (even if it's different from what you originally planned). Was it a huge blow to your self-esteem? Protect your sense of self-compassion and love. Are you struggling to function without the established structure and routine you once had? Protect your mental-emotional wellbeing by forming and sticking to a new routine, and finding other ways to regulate yourself. Whatever it is, work on protecting what was most impacted by this change. To do so will help you now and well into your future.

[flowzel]

...What is going on. PT 2

A/N: I'm going to continue this in a separate post with two endings :]

Part 1 is here

featuring: Osamu Dazai and Chuuya Nakahara

summary: chuuya confesses something and you have to choose.

content/genre: angst(?)

warnings: difficult situation, mentions of a potential car crash, distress, alcohol, cope, drunk confession

"Please here me out (Name)" Dazai tried to reach out for you as you continued to step closer to the exit. You continued to ignore him as he persisted to get your attention. "I can't let you go, I can't have a repeat."

"You are a moth in a field of butterflies." You hesitated to walk again, curiosity peaked but so did the sting of your emotions when you saw him with that woman. Dazai saw your hesitance and continued on, "A moth uneasily spotted. However, once someone like me saw you it was much easier to tell you apart from the rest. You shine much brig-"

"Then why couldn't you tell me apart from that lady? Your sweet useless nothings can't save you, learn that Dazai. Grow up." It stung both for you and Dazai. He had never heard that tone in your voice, one so distant, one full of distain. "I'm ashamed I entrusted my heart into your tainted hands. Take the hint and leave me alone."

Your body left the exit before your mind could consider the option of jumping back into his arms, and taking back every word that spilled out of your lips. Perhaps it was for the better.

Immediately, you pulled out your phone and decided to text the closest person to you. Chuuya.

After contemplating for a while, you decide to ask to come over to Chuuya's house. Everything outside reminded you of Dazai, it ached. Your heart ached more than ever before. The better the experience, the harder the separation.

As you were driving towards Chuuya's house, it happened occasionally and you wished it didn't, but your eyes glanced over the places you hung out with Dazai. Despite the nostalgia, you had to continue driving. You couldn't let the deep hiraeth rise to the surface, you couldn't act like those film characters that ran back to their ex because they were dependent on them. At least, not immediately.

A loud piercing sound makes it way to your ears, which makes your eyes widen and body jump. Your hands grip onto the the steering wheel intensely as your foot slams down onto the brakes. The foot once hovering over the accelerator fell limp. Your head is already spinning, and top to it all off, your upper half gets launched forward from the immediate stop. All you could hear are the heavy breaths you exhaled. In the distance, you could hear yelling and shouting. Your hands start to peel off the steering wheel slowly. The adrenaline passes you so slowly, but once your snapped out of your trance you find that you were just blocking traffic, Perhaps, today just put you off, if no one cared then why should you?

Eventually, you do make it to Chuuya's house. As asked of you you pull out your phone to inform Chuuya that you are outside.

"For someone who just corrected me so willingly you look so stolid. Did something happen?" Chuuya says immediately as he glazes over you before" ushering you in. You roll your eyes and throw yourself onto his couch, "Two things to be exact."

He raises his eyebrow at this silently and goes into the kitchen. "Do you want anything to drink? I'm grabbing myself some Petrus 2018 Magnum."

"I thought you liked your wine older because it tasted better Mr. Avid-wine-collector. I might not be mentioning just wine either." You can hear him scoffing at your remark.

"Excuse me?"

"You're excused." He grumbles loudly from the kitchen, you can feel him burning a hole through the couch.

"I'm not into older people. Just answer the question, do you want wine orrrr?" You nod and he somehow seems to understand that you want a glass of wine as well.

"I'm not a mind reader, use your words next time."

"Could've fooled me." Chuuya sighs at your response. "So what was making you feel all serious?"

As he brings over the drinks, you snap like your fingers like you had just figured something out. "Oh yeah that." He hands you the glass and you sit up from your previous laying-on-the-side position. Immediately, you down the wine and Chuuya doesn't seem to mind. He flashed you a worry look as the alcohol settles into your system. "Well to start, I broke up with Dazai."

His face morphs from worry to a mix look of shock and relief? "Well he was an asshole anyways. Though can I ask why?" He sips his wine in curiosity.

"He cheated on me."

"WHAT." He shouts accidentally. Chuuya sits there in silence waiting for a 'Just kidding!' or maybe another response that indicated you were just playing around. No response was returned, only more silence.

"So, you really broke up with him?" He questions, not believing the obvious truth. "Are you going to run back to him?"

"I'm not sure..." You answered truthfully and you don't know if it was the alcohol or just your heart talking. It definitely wasn't your brain talking though.

"Well I have something to tell you." Chuuya averts his eyes, gripping the wine glass tightly. His body mimics your movement and position. He takes another sip of wine before looking at you with a nervous expression and you had to admit he looked attractive. He leans forward and you dread the words that would slip out of his mouth. "I.." He starts, and a rosy hue floods his face. "I like you- and I know this is such a bad time to confess but I don't think I can't keep it a secret any longer and... and." He looks at his wine glass in his hands. "I'm sorry."

You stare at him for a concerning amount of time in silence, he squeezes his eyes shut preparing for rejection.

"I'm honored Chuuya.. but can I have time to think?" Chuuya looks up at you and nods, understanding your decision.

"And I hope we can still be friends even if I don't feel the same in the end." You add.

"Yeah of course." He responded, however, you knew if you refused or returned his feelings nothing would be the same. It was just the false belief that everything was going to get better, no crisis stays forever anyways.

But now you had the decision, would you forgive Dazai or return Chuuya's feelings?

[soospiritualjourney]

How we can use compassion with disruptive students and start participating in their lives to change their mindsets

The students in classrooms who are disruptive and who consistently make poor behavior choices have learned that adults are not trustworthy. They believe that in the end, all adults will eventually abandon them, they believe that no one loves them and that no one cares.

Still, deep down, they hope there’s an exception—an adult who will hold them accountable firmly but gently, and never give up on them, no matter what awful things they do or say. So they test us by acting out in class. By doing so, they are collecting evidence, watching, noting how we respond.

They sometimes break us before we break them.

I don’t expect huge changes in my time with them. Every little sparkle I see in them is a victory. I believe that as long as I keep holding the light for them to have a voice in this world, the spark will become brighter with each day. At the end of the year, they might become somebody else’s problem. But I still want to go through the motions with them, and put my heart into letting their voices be heard, their presence be felt and their beings beloved, no matter how broken they are inside.

It is as simple as believing in them, wanting to help them, and offering them the choice to do better, communicate to them in some way that I will be there for them through the storm because we can only get through this when we do it together.

I keep holding them accountable for their behavior. I do not take defiance personally. I dig into my inner empathy for them, while being firm and consistent. There is a difference between meting out a consequence for them to learn to take ownership of their actions vs punishing them for making my life harder.

Compassion is important. For example, a student might show defiance in class when asked to do a task. She could be saying, “This is hard for me. I do not like to fail in front of my classmates. It is embarrassing. “ Instead of losing my cool and raising my voice and lecturing the student about disrespect, I can respond more compassionately. I might say, “I know this is hard. But I’m here to help. You can do this little by little. We can do this together.”

[euesworld]

"I've probably been thinking of you in situations that would make me blush if you knew.."

Probably.. but how probably you'll never know, haha - eUë

[theres-whump-in-that-nebula]

Another Whump Generator lol

If you use any of these prompts, please either tag me or reblog this post.

Month of Birth:

Your whumpee has to...

January - Walk a long distance

February - Sleep in a tree

March - Decipher a code

April - Steal something back

May - Navigate a labarynth

June - Swim

July - Hang on for dear life

August - Fight zombies

September - Command a ship

October - Make pottery on a wheel

November - Outsmart a creeper

December - Drive at night

...

Day of Birth:

...with...

1 - An injured hand

2 - A gunshot wound

3 - An infection

4 - A (mild) concussion

5 - An injured foot

6 - Fractured ribs  I know, I use this one all the time... I can’t avoid it lol

7 - PTSD

8 - Auditory hallucinations

9 - Visual hallucinations

10 - Their most-relied-upon sense depleted or gone (sight, hearing, etc.)

11 - A minor injury/ailment and an overzealous caretaker

12 - Torn cartillage

13 - Heat exhaustion

14 - Poison in their system

15 - A broken nose

16 - Whumper perpetually hitting them

17 - A stampede of animals ready to run them over

18 - Someone experimenting on them

19 - Tuberculosis

20 - A debilitating fear of failure

21 - Another, worse-off whumpee that depends on them being there

22 - A parasite attached to them

23 - Severe burns

24 - Whiplash

25 - A knife in their leg

26 - An insect sting or bite

27 - Their feet bound

28 - A storm on the horizon

29 - Sensory overload

30 - Mind control

31 - Warrant for their arrest and execution

[chiefmilkshakeprincess]

I absolutely hate it when people say “Others go through worse”......ummm...okay???....so???....that doesn't really change what I’m going through now does it? I mean I don’t in any way mean that people don’t go through worse...I’m just saying that others going through worse really doesn't change the situation for me......may others get all the strength to face what they are facing but could you please stop telling me to “suck it up” and “man up” and “get over it” because you don’t think I’m going through something extreme....what i might be going through might not be a big deal for you but it is for me....there might be something thats not a big deal for me but is for you.......so please just don’t be so inconsiderate towards whatever others are going through....you telling them that doesn't make them feel better about their situation, it just makes them feel incompetent and discourages them further.....coz in the end you really have no idea how the other person is feeling.

[thexiiithterra]

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