#ds dynamic

[veilfemme]

Butch daddy who is angry 🤝 femme princess who wants to be used as a fucktoy.

[satorucholo]

What it's like dating a brat

[insidedyingim]

I want to worship my fp like a God. They are my God. I don't need anything or anyone else. Please let me kneel at your feet. Let me kiss the ground you walk on. Fuck, my brain is insane.

[doctordaddysir]

Desire

I desire you.

I desire your body.

I desire your submission

I desire your effort.

I desire you.

I desire your time.

I desire your communication.

I desire your trust.

I desire you.

I desire your love.

I desire your understanding.

I desire your consent.

I desire you.

It's not just physical. When I say I desire you it means all of you, mind, body, soul.

I desire you.

[greyestjayest]

An Anniversary

Yesterday was the one year anniversary of my dynamic with Master. It’s interesting to look back and see everything that’s changed; a year and a day or two ago I was a very different person than I am now—insecure, trying to be brave (being brave, ultimately), putting myself out there and taking ownership of my body. Now I’ve found that ownership in giving it up to another person. I am more confident in who I am, and eager to meet the future. There are so many factors that play into this growth, but the common undercurrent to them all is the amazing relationships I’ve formed with Master and Mommy. Without their support, I might not have leaned so hard into therapy, might not have pushed myself daily to be someone they could be proud of, might not have even considered taking on so many of the obstacles in my path. Master is the hard point that my leash is tethered to, the place I can go when I need advice or a push or comfort. And thinking back to how scared I was, how intimidating He was, I am forever glad that I tackled that anxiety head on and engaged with Him anyway.

 A year ago, I went to bed, heart soaring, stomach sinking, head spinning with the possibilities; last night, I went to bed naked with cuffs on my wrists and ankles, a collar around my neck, feeling safe and loved and home.

[greyestjayest]

Meeting Master

We met on FetLife, not the most auspicious of beginnings. I had been on and off of various dating apps for months, getting matches I never talked to, running away from those I did talk to, never really "clicking"--with the person, with the app, with the idea of dating. I knew that I wanted something, I longed for another person in my life, a non-platonic partnership, but somehow these seeds seemed doomed not to sprout. So, after some thought, I turned to FetLife. I'd been on and off of Fet for a while too; years, really. Kink had been an interest of mine before it legally could be an interest. I'd never done much there. Posted in a local group, missed the email notification, swore never to post in said group again. The usual. This time, though, I was ready, and determined to throw caution to the wind in the hopes of at least finding something short term. Well, that's not exactly right; I'd finally figured out what it was I wanted, what those other potential relationships were lacking. I've never much been one for typical romance, and with that realization in hand, I made my personal ad. It was in a group for online domination, and I was not prepared for the response to my post. My inbox was flooded. I talked to the first messenger, who convinced me to cam for him over Skype. He checked in the next day and we never spoke again. I had been trying to go in order, respond to everyone, but there were just too many messages, and I was able to come to the realization that I didn't have to oblige them all. And when I clicked on His message, it was short, sweet, to the point, and exactly what I was looking for: someone experienced, offering a 24/7 power exchange that didn't stop vanilla life. I responded, and He explained the areas of control He expected and addressed all of the concerns I had. He assured me that He was flexible and willing to work with the structure of life I already had established. We moved over to Discord to negotiate. It sounds so...hasty, having it written out like this. Maybe it was. I've seen a lot of people state that you should know your partner well before engaging in such power exchange with them, and for some people that may be true, but I have a different perspective. We went into things openly, stating what we were looking for, what our expectations and needs were, and met each other where we were at. And, honestly, that open communication hasn't stopped; I haven't felt pressured into giving up anything, rather, it feels like an offering or a gift. When I've struggled, I told Him and He adjusted every time. When I've felt like I need more, He's held onto that until He was sure I was ready. I've been punished for missteps, but the punishment has always fit the crime, and the crime is always forgotten afterward. Sweet words have been exchanged. Plans to meet have been made (and put on hold). Ultimately, I don't regret making that ad, but I am thankful beyond belief that it was Sir I chose to engage with. - Originally posted on my blogspot

[faggot-of-the-night]

I hate that I always feel so hesitant when domming, because I really enjoy domming, but I can't handle a sub bratting. It's not my thing, never has been, I don't even like to do it when I sub.

But every time, I lay out this boundary, and every time, it gets crossed. And it leaves me in a really bad state, having to end the scene either immediately or as quick as possible, and then recieve little to no aftercare afterwards. In fact it's rare that I'll recieve any form of aftercare or reassurance, even if I express my discomfort.

Unfortunately, from having chatted with a few other doms on this site, and having seen plenty of posts about the same issue, it seems that this is indicative of a larger pattern on here.

There's been such an emphasis placed on the sub's boundaries in a d/s dynamic, but very little reciprocation for the boundaries of the dom. But dom's shouldn't be expected to just roll with the punches or be okay with having our boundaries crossed and our limits pushed. A d/s dynamic is a partnership, in which both (or more) parties help give the other(s) pleasure. And a partnership requires mutual respect. Doms are not pleasure factories, but actual people with feelings that deserve equal respect to a sub's feelings.

So please, respect doms' limits. And if you cross a boundary, even on accident, try to make up for it.