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(ealynn part two) seriously considering of moving out. It will be me, my cat ( eventually my sister if she wants). For the moment i am going to try and stay away as much as possible. I have reached my limit and i am done. My father can do what the hell he wants, i will not soend time on him anymore. Perhaps he will realise after a while i am his daughter and not his enemy. However, i don't think it will change any time soon. Thank you for being there when no one does. Hugs and kisses, ealynn.

Hello dear Ealynn,

I am sorry I took so long to respond to this, and I also regret that I do not have the first part to your ask. I will do my best with this second part.

I think that it is a good idea for you to move out, and I agree that this will most likely help him realize that he was being unfair and cruel. I know this was a hard decision for you, but I believe it was the best decision for yourself. I hope you are okay, my friend, and I wish you nothing but the best. I will always be here for you.

Thorin

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Fia & Ealynn

This probably won’t surprise you, but Shelob found your messages tasty and ate some of them!

Ealynn, we’re missing your part 1 for Thorin. Do you still have a copy of part 1 that you can send? Otherwise we can have Thorin do his best with the rest :)

Fia, we’re still missing your part 1. Would you rather we got you an answer with what we have? We have all the other parts ready to go, but if you still have part 1 we can put it all together.

Thank you guys for being so patient, and sorry for the trouble! Shelob has really been bugging our inbox lately.

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Missing asks

Tumblr Shelob will not stop snacking out of our inbox! We’re missing a lot of messages. (So just as a timely reminder-- if you send long messages to our inbox, please try to number the parts & give us a name we can call you. It helps us keep track of what we have and what we are missing!)

Ealynn -- we are missing your part one, can you send it in again?

Fia -- we have 2-5 from you now, but we’re still missing part 1... can you try once more? hopefully Shelob will behave this time :<

Thanks for bearing with us, all :)

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Dear Thorin, ealynn here. Talk about from the frying pan into the fire. I don't know what to do anymore. He does nothing but screaming and yelling all day. I just don't understand how someone can change so much. He is always complaining that he has to bear with everyone, but we never asked of him to contact everyone about my grandfather. We didn't ask for him to go there everyday and spent time with ''his'' family. I could use a hug, because i'm tired of everything. Greetings, eallyn

Hello Ealynn,

It saddens me that your family is being like this. *hugs you* Perhaps it is time for you to more seriously consider moving out? This is a very bad situation, and my best recommendation is for you to remove yourself from it. Maybe when this is over he will be able to go back to how he was, and you can return, but my dear Ealynn, you must keep your own health in mind. This cannot be good for you. While he is spending time with others, I think that he is failing to recognize that you are also his family. This is not your fault, my friend, and I believe there is nothing you can do to improve his health, so you must try to improve yours. He is not your responsibility, and though while family is important, sometimes the best option is to simply distance yourself from the issue until things return to normal.

Hoping things get better,

Thorin

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Dear Thorin, Ealynn here. It's been a long time, but it was going fine until recently. My grandfather is in the hospital ( it's bad, i won't lie) but my father reacts really badly. The ex of my grandfather tends to dramatise stuuf about my granddad's condition and always calls my father with unneeded drama. She did so today, and while we were talking, in an effort to cheer up i made a joke, but he took it the complete opposite way. He's accused me of not having any empathy, and that he

(ealynn part two) and that he has it hard, and that no one cares. I only made a joke ( that was not offensive at all) but a little bit ironic and he pretty much accused of being insensitive and that we only care for ourselves. He has no idea how living with him is at the moment. He doesn’t, smile, only is silent and says almost nothing. We are not allowed to try and cheer each other up or he is convinced that we lack empathy. My older sister- who’s been one time - to see my grandfather is again (ealynn part three) like a goddess in his eyes. While my mother has gone every day, takes care of his Financial stuff, he only snarls at her. I am getting tired of his attitude. Me and my sister are working now, and if it stays like this, i will be moving out soon. I’m sorry for my mom, but i can’t handle his reactions anymore. Do you have any suggestions? I feel like i am at a funeral all the time, and it isn’t exactly good for my mental health. I am not strong mentally, not enough yet. Help?

Hello, dear Ealynn.

I am sorry it took so long for me to get around to this, and I am sorry this is happening to you. These family stresses can indeed be sticky. Your father should not be treating you and your sister differently, and you certainly should be allowed to cheer each other up. In situations like this, everything cannot be dropped. Life has to go on. Yes, mourning the illness of a family member, especially one so close, is important, but it is doubtful that that family member would want to be causing such despair. In most situations, I would encourage you to keep an open mind towards your father, as he is suffering a great deal with this, but it seems to me that you have tried to do so, and have had your efforts rejected. I think there is not much that he will let you do for him, and living with him is clearly stressful for you right now. Keeping yourself healthy, both physically and mentally, should be one of your first priorities

Is it at all possible for you to spend less time at home and more time with friends or at work? I think that perhaps spending time away from the situation will help you to be able to deal with it better. If you truly believe that moving out would be best for you, you could do it, but keep in mind that having your own place can be stressful in its own way. I think it would be good to weigh your options and try other things first. However, if you do end up moving out, it is still possible to keep in contact with your mother and sister to make sure that things are still going well for them and they are okay.

Hoping things get better for you,

Thorin

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Hey thorin, ealynn here. Thank you for helping me, i needed it :). As for the bickering, it has lessened. Me and my sister had a big fight but we talked it out. Now everything is going fine. I've actually spent the first day at my internship alone, without anyone to guide me and actually went quite well. I'm proud i did it! As for my dad, i think he has understood i don't like the fighting, so he tries to be in a better mood ;) Thank you, thorin. Kisss and hugs, ealynn.

Hello Ealynn,

good to know that your father saw sense! He may not be a hopeless cause after all... I’m very proud of you and the way you manage your internship! I knew you could do it. I’m so glad you are enjoying it, and that your family is trying to be less, err, argumentative. You’re sure you aren’t dwarves? You know, once in a while I would like to spend a day not listening to any arguing, but I don’t think that will happen anytime soon.

And thanks for the hugs and kisses! Please have mine back, if that is ok.

With my love,

-Thorin

Ps: And please give my regards to your sister, if you like.

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Hell Thorin, ealynn here. So i have a tiny issue to speak to you about if you don't mind. Recently i started my internship required for my school and i like it. Unfortunately it are long days. I Wake up at six and get home around eight in the evening. As you know, my family argues and bickers a lot. But recently i've found that i don't tolerate it, especially between my mom and dad or my sister and dad. It's just really nervewracking and it is exhausting. I feel always tired, especially

(ealynn part two) especially mentally tired and i feel as if i don’t get any rest. It is just mentally exhausting, and also for my emotions it’s a huge rollercoaster. I just get tired of hearing them fight. How do i explain them i don’t have the patience nor the energy to hear them fight without me having headaches, bad dreams or a funny feeling in my stomach? How do i explain to them the mood they create makes me lose the want to do anything at all? Thank you, ealynn.

Hello my dear friend,

is there any way you can tell them what you have just told me? Could you start talking to the easiest to talk to first, then enlist their help to talk to the others? Probably start with your sis or your mother, and let them speak with your father. Maybe they have ideas of their own on how to handle this. They probably can’t simply stop fighting, but less fighting and being more quiet could help. It sounds like he main problem would be your father once more, so maybe Glynn or your mother would be willing to hold back a bit for now? Try to talk to them and see what they feel they would be willing to do. And I’d definitely try to talk to your father, or let them do it- maybe it will get through to him. How long does your internship last for? For yourself, have you considered withdrawing to your room and putting on headphones when things get uncomfortable? Taking yourself out of the situation would be good for you, I think.

Even so, I am happy to hear that you enjoy your internship, even if it taxes your strength. Can you try to take small breaks during the day, to keep up your strength? Be kind to yourself and don’t forget that you need to take care of yourself, too.

Ealynn, I hope I could help you a little. Let me know how you are, if you like.

Hugs,

-Thorin

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Dear Thorin,ealynn here. Since part of my ask is missing i'm sending it again. Here we do indeed hide eggs, my mom still puts eggs on the kitchen table every year. As for my dad, he's been in a quite good mood lately, but my older sister wasn't there to visit, so i don't know when i'll see her again. Trying to get to know her might be quite difficult, since she and my mother don't along, but i guess they must try, right?As for my dad, i'm letting it go now, or trying to at least ;)

(ealynn part two) my father's mood has actually been okay so let's hope it stays that way! Thank you again for listening to me and giving advice. Big hugs and foreheadbumps? greetings, your friend ealynn.

My dearest Ealynn,

I hope you found all the eggs your mother hid! I hope the good mood at your house stays there for a while. About your older sister- life just keeps throwing us new challenges,eh? But trust me, you do get used to it after a while. 

*Gives big hug and a very careful foreheadbump*

I hope that didn’t hurt?

All my love,-Thorin