#era's thoughts

[chasingqueerdreams]

Remember kids, we are only a few steps away from the dystopian societies we read about in novels. Keeping track of legislation passed by our respective societies, makes that apparent.

Remember to fight for genuine freedom.

[oceanera12]

Building a BAD Relationship

WAS SUPPOSED TO BE A WRITER’S REFERENCE BUT THIS POST MAY BE TRIGGERING SO BE CAREFUL, M’KAY?

This is going to be one of the hardest posts I will ever make:

I’m trying to write a couple that has an UNHEALTHY relationship, but not abusive. Basically, they think they love each other, but...they don’t. They really don’t. So a lot of my brain power has been thinking about how to make an unhealthy relationship in which BOTH parties are instigators to the unhealthiness of it which has been... interesting (my stomach feels sick, guys).

So! Here’s what I’ve come up with:

Being overly protective to the point of obsession because your partner is YOURS. No one else is allowed to even look at them.

Physical affections are not a sign of love. It’s a way for them to escape or blow off steam. If one is feeling stressed or having a bad day, they’ll find their partner and kiss them-- not because they are happy to see the other person but because they want to forget about their problems. These can range from simple kisses to a lot more serious actions. Both partners instigate this and both know what the other is doing, they just don’t care.

Not helping the other progress through challenges. If one is suffering from nightmares and trauma and wakes up screaming, the other will either ignore them or jump up to the previous point. There is no talking about what is going on in the other’s mind or words of comfort. It’s “person A’s” problem, not “person B’s”.

Person A will harm Person B, at Person B’s request and vice versa. This is messed up on so many different levels and I really don’t feel like going into it, so I’m not going to, okay?

No interacting outside of “their time.” See your partner on the street? Ignore them/Pretend you don’t know them. And no, it’s not for “safety reasons” or “taboo couples” this is just two people pretending not to see one another.

Not talking to each other. Any kind of interaction can be summarized into physical actions with very, very little conversation held. 

Not caring about the other person’s personal belongings.

Keeping the relationship a secret from everyone for the sheer “thrill” of it.

Putting their own happiness and well-being before the other person. This can be a simple as “I’m eating tacos tonight.” “I want a sandwich.” “Then go have a sandwich. I’m having tacos.” This also goes into making decisions that can affect the other without checking with the other person.

Leaving for long periods of time and not telling the other person. When they come back, they both act like nothing happened.

They don’t have “fights” in the sense of an argument. If one of them disagrees with something the other did, they just won’t talk about it. Ever.

And just so you know: YES, they do not stay together. Their relationship kind of ends with one of them just leaving without a goodbye. So yes: BAD RELATIONSHIP. 

It’s like Anakin and Padme but one hundred times worse because it’s like two Anakin’s.

[oceanera12]

Going Ghost (Kinda)

So my childhood did not consist of Nickelodeon, Disney Channel/XD, or Cartoon Network.

This is important to know because this year, my Halloween celebration has been me bingeing Danny Phantom, a show I have never seen before. I’ve heard good things about it and it looked cool, so I’ve been watching it. I am on the last season and I have some thoughts that I thought I’d just put out there.

It’s a good show. Really, it is. I’ve enjoyed the characters, the villain's are fun (Plasmius is one of the most interesting characters in the show and I absolutely hate and love him), the world building is fantastic and the show has a lot of untapped potential.

HOWEVER--

Everyone who wants a reboot to this thing, I don’t think it would go well. And I know, reboots are known for being bad for the most part but I REALLY don’t think it would go well-- unless you changed up A LOT of stuff.

First off: do you all realize how many jokes they were able to shove into this show that I would not consider “age appropriate”. Like HOLY KRIFF, I can’t tell you how many times I wanted to smack Danny and Tucker because I don’t care if you’re a fourteen year old boy. A girl would smack you for saying something like that.

Sam by far is the most interesting and well rounded character. I liked how they made her a goth but it never felt forced. It was just part of her character. I also appreciated how she was a vegetarian and fought for her ideals, but she never really pushed Danny and Tucker to also become vegetarian (except for that first episode). I felt like she was well-rounded and a good female character over-all. 

Which is why I know for a fact that any reboot would most likely ruin her. Because every reboot looks at the girls of the old show and goes, “Mmmh, how do we make this character stronger?” Answer: you don’t. Don’t touch Sam in any way, shape, or form. She’s perfect and you don’t need her to become the brains, muscle, and heart of the operation, leaving Danny and Tucker as idiots who cannot succeed without her.

I jumped into the realm of Danny Phantom fanfiction for a quick look around. One word: YIKES. Do y’all know how dark some of those things are? Like, HOLY KRIFF, I found multiple stories of Danny’s parents trying to kill him KNOWING IT WAS THEIR SON. Also the shipping community has some very... interesting ideas. Many of them illegal. That’s all I am going to say on that. Please don’t do them.

Danny and Tucker, please grow up. It’s fine to have crushes on girls and make heart eyes at them. I’m okay with Danny’s weird crush on Paulina and his semi-better one on Valerie. What I’m not okay with was the MULTIPLE jokes involving the girl’s locker room. Need I remind you: THIS WAS A KIDS SHOW. (Also, mini-skirt Fridays? I would punch any boy that suggested this in my high school so why Sam never spoke up about this, I don’t know)

Danny was also an excellent character (minus the point above). He was never perfect and made a lot of mistakes. I did not feel like there was ever a duplicate “lesson” that he had to learn repeatedly, minus his several check-ins on not getting carried away with his powers. I actually really liked this because it was never the “exact same” lesson in the same circumstances. (Also, this is a personal preference, but I like the idea of just keeping him a guy. Shows are starting to lack in the good, male, character category in favor of tearing them down so the female can save the day and I’m just annoyed because CAN’T WE HAVE BOTH?)

Tucker needs a revamp. His two main traits were: he’s smart and he is very much into girls. Please tone back on the last one and do more with his smart side. I want to see this kid at an intelligence level of Pidge from Voltron. I want to see Tucker ghost-hunting inventions. I want to see this boy do something other then gaga over girls and cry when his PDA breaks (or smartphone at this point in age).

I have more but I think ten points is good for now. I’m not really looking for a reboot of this show, but I do not think I’d be completely against it. Just putting out some thoughts because why not?

So here’s my Halloween post/thoughts and me wishing y’all a Happy Halloween!