WAS SUPPOSED TO BE A WRITER’S REFERENCE BUT THIS POST MAY BE TRIGGERING SO BE CAREFUL, M’KAY?
This is going to be one of the hardest posts I will ever make:
I’m trying to write a couple that has an UNHEALTHY relationship, but not abusive. Basically, they think they love each other, but...they don’t. They really don’t. So a lot of my brain power has been thinking about how to make an unhealthy relationship in which BOTH parties are instigators to the unhealthiness of it which has been... interesting (my stomach feels sick, guys).
So! Here’s what I’ve come up with:
Being overly protective to the point of obsession because your partner is YOURS. No one else is allowed to even look at them.
Physical affections are not a sign of love. It’s a way for them to escape or blow off steam. If one is feeling stressed or having a bad day, they’ll find their partner and kiss them-- not because they are happy to see the other person but because they want to forget about their problems. These can range from simple kisses to a lot more serious actions. Both partners instigate this and both know what the other is doing, they just don’t care.
Not helping the other progress through challenges. If one is suffering from nightmares and trauma and wakes up screaming, the other will either ignore them or jump up to the previous point. There is no talking about what is going on in the other’s mind or words of comfort. It’s “person A’s” problem, not “person B’s”.
Person A will harm Person B, at Person B’s request and vice versa. This is messed up on so many different levels and I really don’t feel like going into it, so I’m not going to, okay?
No interacting outside of “their time.” See your partner on the street? Ignore them/Pretend you don’t know them. And no, it’s not for “safety reasons” or “taboo couples” this is just two people pretending not to see one another.
Not talking to each other. Any kind of interaction can be summarized into physical actions with very, very little conversation held.
Not caring about the other person’s personal belongings.
Keeping the relationship a secret from everyone for the sheer “thrill” of it.
Putting their own happiness and well-being before the other person. This can be a simple as “I’m eating tacos tonight.” “I want a sandwich.” “Then go have a sandwich. I’m having tacos.” This also goes into making decisions that can affect the other without checking with the other person.
Leaving for long periods of time and not telling the other person. When they come back, they both act like nothing happened.
They don’t have “fights” in the sense of an argument. If one of them disagrees with something the other did, they just won’t talk about it. Ever.
And just so you know: YES, they do not stay together. Their relationship kind of ends with one of them just leaving without a goodbye. So yes: BAD RELATIONSHIP.
It’s like Anakin and Padme but one hundred times worse because it’s like two Anakin’s.
A snack in your hand.
The wiggly snoofs.
The fur tickles and searching whiskers.
Grab! Most gently grab.
And then retreat
staring down
I want this thing.
The sound of enjoyment and the smile it brings.
Okay but what you said the other day about Cody taking over from Anahera eventually in the selkie AU actually gave me serious Obi-Wan and Cody brotp feels? It's just I remember you saying elsewhere that Obi-Wan in the fic is an edge and selkies guard the edges? Just those two things combined with what you said about Cody being the first person to make Obi feel like he could have a home in NZ melts me into a puddle of feelings for some reason <3
Friend, come join me in basking in the brotp feels. I have so many feelings about Cody and Obi-Wan’s friendship and genuine respect they have for one another and how much of each other’s bullshit they put up with. Cody has a very specific expression for when Obi-Wan’s nonsense is going too far and he needs to cut that shit out right now, and Obi-Wan has a specific eyebrow arch that means he’s on to Cody and his sass mouth.
Also in the selkie au Obi-Wan is Sad and Alone and that’s fine, okay, he’ll be Sad and Alone forever he can handle it. And Cody is just like here eat this sandwich and come hang out with me. Which is to say that Cody could feel how Obi-Wan was an edge, but mostly he just recognized when someone really needed a friend, and he is good at being one.
While showering, a spider decided to parachute down onto my shampoo bottle, so of course, like the 24-year-old child that I am, I threw the bottle across the bathroom. I then spent the better part of 2 minutes looking only to find it hiding out by my clothes. I'm pretty sure it made eye contact.
i had a nightmare last night that i'd somehow missed halloween and it was awful. i was going around asking everyone what the date was and it kept being like, midway through november, and i was "yes but what happened to halloween????
