Ate jas tanong ko lan kung paano ba mabilis magmove on kasi yung ex ko may bago na siya pero hindi ko alam bakit mahal ko pa and ummaasa pa ako na babalikan niya pa ako.
Ang dami ng nagtatanong sakin neto. Ayoko sana nag aadvice ng mga ganto kasi medyo skeyri 😂 But now I decided to answer it all. But pls bear with me as I’m not in the position to advise u guys coz I’m still in the process and I may develop biases toward or against an indiv for I am going to answer you based on my own experience butI’d try not to be ☺ I’m not saying totally healed nako bec obviously everything that’ll going to come out from me will be definitely lies. So what I can give you are the ways to easily get from where I am right now. And hopefully, I can help you out. 😊 I am going to start this with, there’s no really easy way to get out from the past. Because pain and memories will be your companion everyday. I am not saying this to discourage you. I am telling you this to make you stronger. Maniwala ka, sobrang hirap. Araw araw ka man mag wish na sana mawala na lahat ng pain eh di yun uubra kasi ang totoo, masakit talaga. Madidistract ka. Kahit yung sinasabi nila na gawin mong busy yung sarili mo eh di effective kasi gumuguhit yung sakit. I still remember way back when I keep asking myself “how did it get wrong? What happened to us? Aren’t we supposed to stay no matter what? Is love really not enough? Why do you need to give up? Aren’t we supposed to hold on just like what we promised? Should I find ways to win him back? And then everything comes after… Madami ka pang tanong sa sarili mo sa mga susunod pang mga araw. Makakagawa ka ng bagay na di mo aakalain na magagawa mo kasi sobrang mahal mo yung tao. Maghahabol ka, sige okay lang yun. Pero tandaan mo na kapag ayaw na, bitaw na kahit gano pa yan kasakit. Feel the pain. Love the pain like you’re the only one hurting. Naiintindihan kita. I’ve been there. I fckng hate that stage.. And I don’t wanna go back. But after that believe me bec 100% you’ll gonna find yourself just like what every people with the same situation like yours did. Just like what I did. Sobrang tagal ng process. Wala naman kasi talagang mabilisan eh. Hindi naman kasi yan paunahan. At hindi ibig sabihan na nahuhuli ka eh lesser na yung worth mo. Wag ganon ha. Totoong nagmamahal ka lang kasi. At sa mga taong mabilis makalimot at nakahanap agad ng iba, yaan mo yun. Hayaan mo na. Hindi sila worth it. ☺ Naaalala ko pa nga na lagi ako nagtatanong sa friends ko about sa mga pinopost niya sa fb. Tapos pag may malalaman ako ay hala si gaga sige iyak ulit. Eh shunga naman din kasi dba. Gusto maka move on pero naghahanap ng sakit. Lagi ako nagpapa update non kasi ayoko mahuli. Ayoko maging outdated sa nangyayari sa kanya. Hanggang sa nalaman ko na masaya na siya sa iba. Hinabol ko pa yon kasi baka naman sa isip isip ko “baka nalungkot lang siya sa break up namin at sa nangyari samin kaya nakapaghanap kaagad ng iba” But that’s not the case bec reality hits me. He fell out of love and he’s totally fine without me/us. One time pinuntahan ko pa siya ng ilang beses sa office nila kasi sobrang miss ko na. Wala naman din ako balak magpakita kasi dba nakahanap na siya ng bago. Ayoko naman ng manggulo. Gusto ko lang talaga siyang makita for the last time pero PALAGI akong nag eend up sa wala kasi lagi kong nasasaktuhan na RD niya. Siguro mas okay na rin yung walang closure para di mas masakit. Fate had done it’s job. Kasi baka pag nagkita pa kami eh agawin ko na siya sa bago niya. 😂 But there’s nothing hurts more than realizing that someone you’ve promised and wished of building a happy fam with was no longer yours. We’ve gone so far. We were almost there. We already have a treasure whom I thought would be the way to keep our foundation stronger. Then all of a sudden, he turns out to be the person he promised he’ll never be. Wala na. Nawala na lang lahat bigla. Mawawala ka sa sarili mo. Hindi mo alam gagawin. And once again, you will lost yourself along the way. You will get tired rebuilding your broken pieces. You will suddenly get tired of everything that excites you the most before. You will be blinded by the pain that is consuming u. You will going to question your self worth. Everything will fall apart. You will find yourself on the peek of breaking down. You will find yourself crying everyday. Walang pinipiling oras at lugar luha mo. Hindi ka makakatulog kahit na sobrang antok at puyat ka pa. Gumuguhit yung sakit kasi tapos na yung pangarap na sabay niyong binuo. Wala na rin yung mga planong pinaghirapan niyong sabay na tatapusin. Wala na yung “goals” you both promised to accomplish. Tapos pag may nalaman ka ulit sa kanya may parang something sa lungs mo na di mo ma explain basta alam mo lang eh masakit. Until 1day, you’ll get tired of answering your own whys. Mapapagod ka na lang bigla. Mauumay ka sa sakit na kumakain sayo. Magsasawa ka na lang bigla sa araw araw na pagpapaalala sayo na HINDI NA PWEDE. Mapapagod ka sa sariling sakit na naffeel mo. Basta isang araw bigla ka na lang aayaw sa lahat ng sakit. Mapapatanong ka sa sarili mong “is it still worth it?” na lagi naman nangyayari pag malapit ka na sa stage ng acceptance mga bes. 😂 Yan naman talaga una eh. Wag ka na manghingi ng update. Wag ka ng mag stalk kahit di mo naman mapigilan. Kahit sabihin mo sa sarili mo na “di ko na talaga stalk” pero jusq ang mga bakla di pa rin mapigilan. But I understand you, that was me before. It may be difficult not to stalk him but it gets easier little by little everyday. And yes it may be hard to not think about him but you will eventually find yourself being sorrounded by people who are actually deserving being in your thoughts. If you really wish to be happy, you must be looking for ways that will help you move forward. Don’t expect that he’s going to come back bec here’s the reality. Life is short. Your story is not written on a magical book wherein there will always gonna be a happy ending. This isn’t a movie where you can expect that the person who so called “the one who got away” will all of a sudden appear and will try to find you just because he wants you to be in their life again. There’s no such thing as that. But yeah it may happen sometimes but come on this isn’t all about you and him. Don’t hurt yourself even more expecting for someone to come back bec in the first place he’s the one who decided to let go of you bec he easily found someone else to replace you. YOU’RE MORE THAN THAT. At first, you may feel the pain. Cry as long as you want. Be miserable as long as you need to be. It’s okay to have an emotional breakdown sometimes. Release the pain in any way you like. No one will stop you. Buhay mo yan. Ikaw lang makakatulong sa sarili mo. Hindi ka matutulungan ng iba hanggat di mo ginugustong tulungan yung sarili mong bumangon. And yes, it will gonna take a LOT of courage to forget and let go. Mahirap naman talaga yan kasi ganon mo minahal yung tao pero kaya mo. Kayanin at gustuhin mo. Sorround yourself with people who truly wants to be in your life. Be with people who will give you a genuine happiness. Be with people who can help you find the light again. Be with true people. Prioritize yourself. Build a dream and make it a plan. Do all your checklist. Excel in your work. Meet new people. Don’t be afraid to start over. Save more then WANDER more (One of the bestest feeling is to be lost in the right direction. It is surreal. Sobrang sarap sa feeling ng magtravel. Makakalimot ka talaga). And one day, you will no longer look back with questions stucked on your mind. You’ll be happy for him but you’ll be happier with your progress. The moment you’re completely fine without him is the moment you’ll finally realize that you’ve learned to love yourself again and it’s ALL DAMN WORTH IT. This is all about you and your happiness. Find it again then rebuild yourself. Take your time. Recharge then come back stronger. Save yourself for someone who DESERVES YOUR DEEP AND HARD LOVE. And above all these, seek God first. Then let Him hold your steering wheel. 👆☝ And when such time comes, in God’s perfect time, someone will come along into your life and will now stay for good. Kaya no more to drama lez be happy!! Kung kinaya ko, alam kong mas kaya mo.
You got this 😊
God is within her, she will not fall. -PSALM 46:5