#ex mo

[growingupmormon]

My mom was telling a “friend” about my sister’s wedding (where she married my amazing sister-in-law)

Lady: I didn’t think you’d be okay with that?

Mom: you don’t think I would support my kid?

Lady: well, weren’t you raised mormon? I’m Catholic so…

Mom: well, every persons got a church that brainwashed them

Lady: -

Mom: I don’t believe in organized religion

Me: 👁️ 👁️ you just said that, you did not just say that!? Wait to go Mom!

[entity56]

why is the LDS church suddenly pushing so hard? ive blocked like a bajillion different advertisers talking about joining it and they still keep coming. its in literally every category of youtube video

[illyrianbitch]

how are you so funny

ex mormonism, weed, and existential dread mostly

[ferociouslyfree]

Well, this has been an interesting conference. Not because of anything said (I wouldn't know; I'm actively avoiding it for my own sanity), but because two members of my family have talked to me about major doubts they are having.

Has anyone who has left the church had this happen before? Like, is it common once one person is out for others to follow? Anyone have advice?

[sisislair]

Feeling some sort of way in this chili's today.

One of my younger sister's is getting married in like, late July early August? And Im genuinely happy for her because she seems ecstatic.

But it's a Mormon speed run wedding, and I'm worried. Because yes, they have known each other for a year, but he was engaged to someone else at the beginning of that year, and they've only actually been dating for like, 2 months? And I've seen this go so badly before. They haven't lived together at all yet, because that's not allowed with Mormon rules in order to prevent pre-marital sex. So they haven't gotten past the, we're still on our best behavior for each other faze. They haven't gotten comfortable with each other yet, don't know if they would hate living with each other yet.

And like, I didn't even know this guy existed before our family reunion in January, and even then I just vaguely knew that she was dating someone.

So there's that. But I can't even really shit talk him, because I know nothing about this guy. Just his name.

And I'm worried she's going to get heartbroken, or that she'll end up trapped in the church, but she also seems to enjoy church, and like. It would be a fucking asshole move of me to disrespect her decisions as a full adult ya know?

Even if I don't think they're fully informed ones.

But our parents did the kind of shit all the time where they would either have non reactions to or ban some of the non church things we enjoyed, and I really don't want to turn that back on her.

And you know, I'm invited, and she's asked me to decorate her wedding cake for her, which is really touching!!! But also brought up the fear that I could have not been invited at all. Especially because apparently her fiance was pushing for them not to do a reception. I'm glad she did.

Because I knew this could happen at some point with some of my siblings who were still in, but I didn't realize not being able to go to the ceremony would hurt quite this badly. That's my younger sister, and I can't even watch her get married, because this fuck ass religion won't let you into the temple unless you're a full tithe paying member.

Rant done, just wanted to shout out to any of my fellow ex-mos who haven't been able to see family members wedding ceremonies.

[exmovibes]

I spend a lot of time on here ranting about how angry i am at the church and how much growing up mormon fucked me up. And I want to switch it up a bit.

Things I'm grateful for since leaving the church

The right to my body. I look forward to every new piercing and tattoo I get. I'm almost 1 year on T. Every day, my body is looking more and more like home

The right to my own money. it's so nice to own all the money I earn. I'm not stressed about covering bills or the guilt I would get when I wasn't able to pay tithing. It's honestly so freeing

The right to my sexual desires. It's taken me a while, but masturbation and watching porn no longer fills me with guilt. I'm able to enjoy sexual things and the way they make me feel, without feeling awful about myself. Once I made that switch in my mind, that anything sexual is natural and not inherently wrong, my life has been so much better

The right to my own time. I posted about this a few weeks ago, and let me tell you. Having an additional 5+ hours of time a week to just do whatever, you can do so much. I reorganized my whole room last week while my family was at church. I've been learning sign language while waiting for my brother to be done with mutual. I've picked up book binding and writing during the times my family was at the temple.

The right to consumption. While I absolutely do not advocate for the use of drugs or alcohol, I'm able to enjoy a night out with my friends. I can share a blunt and take shots (of the alcohol variety) without the fear of god looming over me. I can drink coffee and tea without even batting an eye anymore.

I promise you. It does get easier to live life. It's taken me a lot of work, but I'm no longer fully mentally tied to the church. I've still got a lot to work on, but I'm starting to understand the appeal of just living. Taking every day and making the most of it.

For those of you who are pimo, hang in there. I was pimo for 5 years so I get it. It's really fucking hard, but eventually your life will be yours to do with as you please.

Love yall, (p.s. in 9 days I'll be a year inactive!!)

[exmo-memes]

Sundays went from my least favorite day of the week to my second favorite

[gingershnek]

I am the snake that ruined mankind.

You've taken my legs-

Let me keep my head.