I'm a femme who's into femmes, but I don't know how to flirt with femmes, so I thought I'd ask another femme! What's the best way to flirt with a femme, as a femme? (and how many times did I just say femme- yikes.)
Oh, no worries!!! Well, I think everyone likes to receive special attention so if there’s a femme you wanna flirt with do things that will make her feel special and also things that will make her feel desired as a femme.
Lots of eye contact!! Ask her a lot of questions about herself and gaze into her eyes as she answers you. Asking questions is really important!! (or maybe that’s just me??) Let her know that you wanna know more about her...I think when flirting with a femme make her feel like it’s all about her... like she’s a princess!
Tell her how pretty she looks and let your eyes drop somewhere like her lips, body, hair even. like that will establish your intent very fast. Compliment her makeup/outfit/shoes whatever you notice but don’t say “oh I like your dress” that’s not as romantic as saying “when i saw you tonight i couldn’t help but notice how beautiful you look and how lovely your dress is.” She will remember you and want to talk with you again.
If you’re at a club buy her a drink!! :)
This is sort of how i flirt with anyone if i’m making the first move (minus a couple things). And as a femme who doesn’t want to come off as even a little bit toppy, i will also be really bubbly and giggly and be a little coquettish in the way i glance and gaze at a girl. I will try to draw her attention to parts of my body i want her to look at (so many “casual” hand to chest gestures and finding a reason to turn around so she can see me from behind real quick) and I try to touch their arm as soon as i feel it’s appropriate and if we vibe.
I hope this helps you!?!!! 💛💖✨
