I recently came across the terms 'fictosexual' and 'animesexual' and I just have some things I'd like to say.
1. It is so easy to immediately turn to an exclusionist mindset when we come across new labels. Ace/aro/bi/pan/ply/omni/etc people know exactly how it feels to have to defend our identities from exclusionists who don't understand them or just hate them. But when we come across a new term, it is SO easy to immediately take on that mindset.
2. When tags are so flooded with people debating whether xyz is valid or not, it becomes really hard to find appropriate explanations of these identities. When I look up a sexuality on a wiki page, it's hard to really understand it based on just the definition it gives me, so i scroll through related tags to see if I can find someone's personal experience that might make me understand it more. It's been impossible to do that with animesexual and fictosexual specifically because of the discourse.
3. I personally still don't understand these identities, and i understand the arguments against their inclusion in certain communities, but that doesn't mean that saying that they are not valid is okay. People choose how they want to identify, and that's okay. You are not being helpful by simply saying that these people are not valid and bullying them. As someone who still doesn't understand these labels, it's extremely inappropriate for me to argue that they are not valid and to further the divide in the aspec community. Also, the arguments people are using to stipulate that these labels don't belong in certain communities are the same arguments bi/pan/ace/aro/ply/omni/trans-exclusionists use. Let's keep that in mind.
Tldr: it's okay if we don't understand the ways some people choose to label themselves. It's okay if we are quick to judge these labels. But we need to catch ourselves. It's absolutely not okay to bully someone who finds these labels helpful for their own identification purposes. Let's be better