Do think you would have wanted to be so submissive with any man you truly loved and trusted, or did your relationship with your husband in particular bring it out of you?
I’ve been thinking about this question for a little while. It’s complicated.
Did I want to be submissive to someone I trusted and loved? Yes. When I was single, I struggled to take it slow and smart with new interests because my desire to submit was strong.
Did I have any idea that it would look like this? Would I let it be so widespread or deep? No. He inspired me to have the type of dynamic that we have. I believe he is a unique and special man, and this potential would not have been realized without him being who he is.
It speaks to the fundamental misunderstanding men have when they say to me “I wish I had someone like you.” Or “where did he find you?” Without him, I would be different. Pick me up and plop me in someone else’s home and I would likely suffer and grow cold. His gentle and firm presence has improved and sustained me in many ways.
