#gale's advice

[gale-gentlepenguin]

Please dont let the fandom/s you are in become your life.

Dont name your kids after fictional characters. Dont ship Actors/ VA's of characters you like just because you have fictional ships. Don't let your ship not getting together cause you to have a mental break down. Don't harass creators, writers or actors because you don't like what they are doing with the show.

Please remember that it is fictional, it isnt real. Your Fave isnt you. You are you. Your life doesn't end because the character you like doesnt get the ending you want for them.

[gale-gentlepenguin]

Gale's Advice

The more someone says they are a "Nice guy" or a "Good Person" the less likely that its true. You will be able to tell based on how that person treats other people. If they really are a good person, you wont need them to tell you.

[gale-gentlepenguin]

This is your weekend reminder to not take everything at face value. Dont just be told something and accept it as fact. Do your own research and ask people you trust their takes. Ask experts you know and trust. You dont need to know everything, but for the sake of your sanity, do know your views/values and why you believe them. Being well informed fights the mindless bulls***

[gale-gentlepenguin]

Gale's advice: For Life in general

-Randomly buy your Significant other flowers, little gifts or chocolates. Let them know you are thinking of them. Not just on an anniversary or special occasion.

-Be spiritually aligned with your SO. Make sure you believe the same things spiritually. Have the same morality. It is key to a successful relationship.

-Take 'Treating yourself' and also do 'Better yourself'. Where you do something that will help you be healthier, whether its choosing a healthier lunch option, exercising, taking a break from social media, reading a book. Something to help improve yourself.

-Drink water when you first wake up and 20 minutes before you go to bed. Your body will feel better.

-Make your bed after you get out of it. It will help you feel more productive.

-Call your grandmother. It will likely make her day if you did. (or if you hate your grandma. call a relative you dont hate.)

-Take a minute out of the day and just breathe. Dont look at something. Just close your eyes and breathe calmly. That apple watch was onto something

-Once a week list 5 things you want to get done by the end of the week. No matter how big or small. Then check back on your progress.

-When talking to a guy and you want something from him, be BLUNT. Dont be subtle. Be as clear and concise as you possibly can. If you think you are being to blunt, you are not. You are not belittling him you are saving him time. Trust me, you want to be clear.

[gale-gentlepenguin]

There are two very toxic ideas in fandoms.

The first is that 'Everything about (insert show, character, ship, etc) is wrong and needs to be corrected.

The second is that Everything about (insert show, character, ship, etc) is perfect and should never be critiqued'

It is important to remember that criticism does not automatically mean hatred, but it is just as important that people disagreeing with criticism is not a personal attack.

[gale-gentlepenguin]

Gale's Advice: Money is honest.

You want to know what a person stands for, what a person truly believes in? Look where their money is being spent. That's how you know what they truly believe. Because where ever your wealth is stored, so is your heart.

[gale-gentlepenguin]

You give good advice and so I was wondering if you had advice for my situation? I just got basically yelled at on tumblr by someone I used to really like to follow. Now I’m second guessing my choice to follow them. I already have their most used tag blacklisted, and…..well I guess I’m just looking for confirmation to unfollow them.

Well anon.

As someone that has been in this situation before, I would say yes.

Now if you do like them and maybe they apologize and change into someone you want to follow again, then you can follow again.

But if you dont think that will happen and you would rather make it end there. Then I recommend blocking.

You should feel comfortable with the blogs you follow. If the blog doesnt have content you enjoy anymore and/or the person show something you dont like, you can unfollow them.

A wise friend of mine said to me that tumblr is about cultivating your own experience. Unfollowing a blog that you find doesnt spark joy is completely fine. If they are a mutual than its a bit harder. But in the end you need to do whats best for your well being

[gale-gentlepenguin]

I want to try writing fanfiction but how do you just get started? How do you force yourself to just do it?

Hmmm,

Honestly the best way to do is just start writing.

Write as much as you can. Dont think about what others want.

Write what YOU want.

If you would read the chapter you are writing than you now have a place to start