Hihi there. I came from an ‘am I trans quiz’ that I’m pretty sure was made by you. It’s weird- recently, I’ve been thinking nonstop about how much I would want to be the opposite gender. But I haven’t felt like this at all until just recently. I mean, sure sometimes I think about it, but it’s not at all like it has been up until now. I’ve wanted to look a lot more like the opposite gender. Like, yknow, different hair styles and different clothing styles and such.
Is this like a phase or something, and will I get over it?
those last two questions unfortunately are something i will never be able to answer, until it either comes to pass, or it doesnt. i can't tell the future. what i can tell you, however, is that something being a phase does not discount it from being a valuable use of your time, nor does leaving that phase mean you were wrong in the first place. it just means that your desires have changed, and that's fine! like, think back to any phases you had in your childhood that eventually passed over - perhaps dinosaurs, perhaps greek mythology, perhaps emo/scene, you get the gist. does the time you spent in those phases feel wasted? have the lessons you learned, the perspectives you gained abandoned you? or are they now simply one part of the tapestry that is you?
it may be a phase, it may not, who's to say. certainly not me. the only one who gets a say in that is you. you are allowed to say "this might be a phase, but i'm going to do it anyways, because it would make the version of me that i am now happy."
do not live your life in such a way as to leave behind a perfect corpse for others to marvel at. live for you. live now, and live happily. and if the life that would make you happy is one of a different gender, well, then, go on and live! and if some day you do change your mind, decide that the life you chose no longer suits you, that just means it's time to enter the next phase. thank this one for spending time with you, for teaching you the lessons it did, for bringing you comfort when you needed it, and move on to the you that you want to become. marie kondo that shit and live your best life. i believe in you
