Hi Tumblr, long meltdown rant with the possibility of needing help.
So, back in November, the day before Thanksgiving, my father came home early. He told my mother, myself, and my brother, that he was done. He "didn't want to fake it through another holiday", that he already had an apartment that I "have that job at Sheetz now, I can figure it out", and that he was leaving. He packed up his computer, some of his clothes, and left. Didn't say goodbye, didn't take his cat, nothing. Since then, he's completely ghosted mom. Refuses to pay the phone bill for his phone, my brother's phone, and the Internet after we agreed that he'd pay all of that, and we'd pay for Mom's phone, because my brother is a minor and goes to an online school for behavioral issues. He refuses outright to send money for groceries, another thing he promised he'd help with. He had completely abandoned us to go live with his mistress who looks like mom, but 20 years younger.
So far, we have been in a "figuring it out" situation. Between my mother's greedy uncle selling the house we currently live in out from under our feet because "it was never yours, it was never going to be yours" (because that's what you say to family you'll let go homeless because of gambling debts 🙄). But, the main problem is glaring; Nobody wants to hire mom. Nobody has been willing to hire a partially disabled, middle aged woman who has a ten-ish year gap on her resume. My mother is a more than competent woman, she can do business management, she can do account management, she can do accounting......stuff?? Idk whatever the fancy word for being an accountant is. She's a smart woman, but employers see that gap in her experience and throw her in the trash.
I, however, have the complete opposite problem! I'm not even 20 years old yet, and have very little experience doing much of anything that isn't retail and food service that would actually matter. I can't get a better job because of that, and my hope of going to a trade school to be able to do cosmetology or welding have been completely halted from the financial situation, and from the recent incident of Amber Czech. Men have decided that they can now just kill women in broad daylight, and it makes me worry about going into male-dominated fields even if the pay is worth it.
"Why isn't your family helping?" Both of my aunts are tied. One lives a few hours away but just doesn't have the room, and one lives close, and has the room to house us until we can move out, but her husband has decided he simply can't do that because it'll "disrupt their lives", even after we suggested just living in their lower level and just staying out of the way, cooking and eating at different times, helping actually keep the place clean, helping with their cats, paying a bit in rent and groceries, ect. But no. And the thing that really kills me about that is? The house is in my aunt's name! When the house was sold to them through an inheritance thing, they had to put it in my aunt's name because her husband had such shit credit that the bank wouldn't sign it! It's *his* house family-wise bc they got it from his late mother, but legally it's my aunt's!
"Don't you have any other extended family?" My grandmother decided that her seasonal hockey tickets, and her 2$/h pay cut from 45$/h to 43$/h was more important to cry over than her daughter and older grandchildren going homeless. Most of my family on my mother's side that's still alive have sided with my greedy great-uncle. My father's side of the family completely ghosted us as soon as he left. We sort of have our hands tied atp when it comes to family help.
My conclusion is this; if anyone is able or willing to help, please contact me. Idc if it's 10$ on venmo or wanting a link to a go fund me. If you can't help financially, share it around. I won't be asking for help with housing where I live specifically because that seems stupid to do on the Internet, but any help is appreciated, even if it's just kind words. Thank you for reading this far, have a cookie. 🍪
