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hi i saw requests were open so…can i have a red and gold stimboard? sparkles are great too :) idk what stims i like but i don’t think i like the ones where you turn the rocks around? idk how to describe…definitely slime and calligraphy though!

Absolutely, here it is!

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Here ... is for you

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For... for me? 🥺🤲🐸

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How do you manage your anxiety disorders? I have social anxiety, and whenever I'm out in public I get stressed and very dizzy as if I'm about to faint and Idk how to deal with it :(

My social anxiety is actually one of the things I'm worst about, I usually just avoid going out in public as much as humanly possible

But I do have a few things that work for me when I do go out! I'm not sure how healthy some of these are but they may help

This got long so I put it under a read more! Sorry if it’s awkward to read, the secondary bullet point doesn’t work on tumblr :( hopefully my makeshift paragraph indent makes it easier to read

Breathe.

　You see this advice everywhere. That’s because it works if you do it right. You can either breathe in sync with one of those breathing gifs or you can do it while counting (i.e. breathe in while counting to 6 and breathe out counting to 10. You can adjust the numbers to whatever works best for you). This may help with the feeling like you’re going to faint thing

Stay around people you know if possible.

　 I think this one’s self explanatory but try to stick with people you know! It’s usually comforting to know you’re not alone when there’s people around!

Focus on basically anything else.

　This may be extra hard if you also deal with intrusive thoughts but even then I’ve found that trying to push intrusive thoughts away is a distraction itself.

　Focusing on things you like is best and easiest, at least for me. Do you have a media you like right now? Think about it! Be careful about this though. I’ve found this to be the best solution for places where it’s okay if you’re not really paying attention or interacting.

　If it’s somewhere where you need to stay in the real world, focus on physical things around you! That tree is cool. Those flowers are really pretty. That painting is neat. etc.

　In that same vein, you can also focus on what you like about someone nearby even if you’re not talking to them. That person’s hair is really nice. I like that person’s shoes. etc.

　Can you put earphones in where you are? Do that if it helps. Music. Podcasts. Audiobooks. Anything. I’ve found that sometimes even just having them on playing nothing helps.

　Similar to that one, playing a game or scrolling through social media on your phone can also help if it’s acceptable.

Stim! Stim! Stim!

　If you’re someone that does, that is. Stimming is your friend! This goes doubly for if your stimming just... happens. I’ve found that holding it back increases my anxiety more than the thought that someone may be looking at me or whatever. And if your worry that people are looking at you is higher, you can stim in smaller ways. Wiggle your fingers, shake your leg (best if under a table), etc.

　Under this same vein: If you have any small stim toys those will probably work well too. I’ve found that popsockets work really really well for me (I think they even have a keychain version now so you won’t lose it). And I’ve never had one but I feel like tangles would work well too?

Objection! Counter! Why does it matter!

　Here’s the thing: Basically everything the little anxiety gremlin in your brain is worried about is stupid. Logically, we may know this! But the anxiety still persists.

　I think most anxiety-driven thoughts are irrational at best. Use that against it.

　This might not work for everyone, but sometimes just calling out an anxious thought with “no that’s stupid” or “that’s not going to happen” can really help! I find it also helps as a distraction in itself as well. (i.e. “I got that answer wrong when I was called on in class, now everyone thinks I’m stupid.” “Do they though? No one cares they just wanna be out of class.”)

　I’ve also found that questioning why it matters helps too. Basically: Why does it matter? Oh. It doesn’t, actually. (i.e. Why does it matter what that stranger thinks of me? They’re going to forget it in like 2 minutes tops.)

It’s going to pass. I won’t be here forever.

　Sometimes when nothing above works I just remind myself that the situation is going to be over at some point. This isn’t going to last forever! I’m going to be somewhere more comfortable eventually!

　This helps me a lot when I’m just in any bad space, really.

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HI HELLO as we're waiting for mikoto's mv can I request a lil... self-indulgent ritsu sakuma stimboard with blankets tea and sweets? ty <3! - milgram (not so) anon

HI WE DO BE WAITING!!! LIKE UHH 7 MORE HOURS? I'M FREAKING OUT.... (and yes here you go <3!)

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MIKOTO IS COVERING MONOPOISONER!? shakes you. mikoto is covering monopoisoner i trusted him

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hello! could you please do a bee stimboard with yellow slime and bumblebees? thank you!!

Here you go! And here's the probably better bee-themed one I made a while back

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Hii I had question about your dni. Your dni says not to interact if you are/agree with...insert list of things. Im kind confused about the k1nk/n$fw part because, are you anti k1nk or do you just not want k1nk blogs interacting? (My blog is completely sfw and not a k1nk blog at ALL but I'm pro-k1nk! (so, I agree with k1nk, I guess?) So I just wanted to ask cuz thatd make me uncomfortable. And you uncomfortable >_<) thank you! :)

I've answered a similar question here that explains a little further! But for the rest of the question:

I'm not anti nor pro, I think? I'm still not entirely sure what's going on over there tbh but like... you do you?

Basically as long as you're not interacting with it on your blog it should be fine! It's really just, algorithm stuff that I'm paranoid about

Also thank you for actually reading my dni 🥺

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HOW ARE WE FEELING ABOUT THE NEW MILGRAM RESULTS - milgram (no longer) anon

A N G Y >:(