Well, I do really enjoy dancing, so I don't think I'd regret anything. Plus, I like to think I'm a fast learner (if not, a very persistent one).
Maybe not, then. The balls are always really fun, at least to my mind. There’s a lot of laughing and messing up and nobody really judges you for it. You’re not trying to attract a suitable husband with your dancing skills since this is 2017 and not actually 1865 (or 1811, or whatever era the particular theme is); you’re just having fun and so is everyone else. Plus nobody cares about the gender combinations of the couples because
B. there’s usually a pretty sizeable gender disparity. the modern patriarchy frowns upon men getting dressed up in old-timey clothes and dancing (although, interestingly, there was often a gender disparity back in the day, too. the Regency/Victorian/Edwardian patriarchy grudgingly allowed for getting dressed up and dancing because that might lead to getting a lady undressed and dancing horizontally, but it still wasn’t on the top ten list of Manly Pastimes. so ladies dancing with ladies didn’t raise any eyebrows if they were both dressed in a feminine manner and didn’t behave in any more-than-platonic way while dancing. well, most of the time. there are always weird cases like that of Charity Bryant and Sylvia Drake in 1810 Vermont, where they were basically married and the community considered them married and their families considered them married- actually used the word “married” -and everyone just kind of went with it? doubly odd because Charity had suffered a ruined reputation because of previous liasons with women, but apparently her actual commonlaw marriage didn’t count for some reason.) Anyway, massive tangent, but yeah same-gender dance partners are fine now and were fine to an extent then.
I’m really glad I found this group, because their events are pretty much everything I've wanted in dances from middle school onwards. Screw prom; I’d much rather have been doing this. They’re called the Commonwealth Vintage Dancers, if anyone else in the Boston/Salem/general New England because let’s be honest it’s not that big area is interested.