Trust is the foundation of any relationship. It allows you to feel safe and be open to people. But it takes a huge amount of effort to build trust, and probably four times the efforts to reestablish trust. So, what are the steps are you taking to rebuild, restore, or repair a relationship and come back stronger?This time on The xMonks Drive, Charles Feltman, a transformational coach and an expert on trust, joins us to help us rebuild trust in a relationship. here is a transcripted version of the conversation.
Trust is the foundation of any relationship. It allows you to feel safe and be open to people. But it takes a huge amount of effort to build trust, and probably four times the efforts to reestablish trust. So, what are the steps you are taking to rebuild, restore, or repair a relationship and come back stronger?
But first, what is trust? Is it a firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something? Or it is something else. People all around the globe have tried defining trust and have given many definitions. But Charles has a unique take, he defines trust as making something you value vulnerable to another person’s actions. This time on The xMonks Drive, Charles Feltman, a transformational coach and an expert on trust, joins us to help us rebuild trust in a relationship. Here is a transcripted version of the conversation.
Rebuilding Trust
Gaurav: I’ve personally come across teams, I’ve personally come across couples, where somehow they’re not able to have conversations well. Many times, people are unable to either cross the bridge or they’re not comfortable looking eye to eye and having conversations. What could be a possible way to rebuild trust?
Charles: It’s a really important question for all of us because we’ve all damaged trust with each other at times, in situations consciously or unconsciously, knowingly, or unknowingly. Mostly unconsciously, especially in the workplace, probably 90 to 95% of things happen that somebody then says, “Oh, I don’t trust that person.” That person was not being consciously untrustworthy. They don’t understand the implications until maybe later of what they were doing.
Fortunately, I had good feedback. If I hadn’t had the good feedback, I would have kept on doing that thinking I was working for people. Yes. So, we do that, and we damage trust with each other.