Was having thoughts about people who are like me, slow burns. That is to say, demiromantics. Like- my only crushes, (two total) took at least a month to slowly develop, and I knew the person for years at that point. (Disclaimer, it is of course a different experience for everyone)
Anyways, as you writers and readers know, that's a classic slow burn. Blorbo falls in love with other blorbo, but it takes about three years or a decade of questioning feelings, miscommunication, adorable moment leading to spiraling by MC blorbo, ect. Slow burn. Boom, perfect fanfic.
To the alloromantic people, that is genuinely how people like me, demiromantics, experience things. I remember being almost in tears as I laid out a laundry list of things I couldn't figure out that a guy friend of mine had gave me ("you smell like oranges", "hi sunshine", ect). Was it flirting? Teasing? Was there a difference? Also how I was in a state of denial for literally three months, where I genuinely didn't think I had a crush. It was a struggle to figure out if what I was feeling was romantic feelings, and I brushed past any hints I got from said guy just in case I misunderstood. I also haven't had a single celebrity crush ever. It's just aesthetic attraction- "sure, he looks nice, but so what?"
Why? Because it's all based on emotional connection. Spending time, bonding, doing menial and boring and fun and hard and anything with the other person, and they're one of if not your bestest friend, until one day a switch flips and suddenly they look a little different. Were they always like that? What's that fuzzy feeling you get when they laugh or you hear their voice after being away? It's, well, a slow burn. Like, yes, make your blorbos do platonic things first, make them have trauma together, bake or make flower crowns or friendship bracelets or kill for each other, BEFORE they kiss.
Because honestly, I love it. Although I wish I could understand what my allo friends are thinking when they send me an edit of someone and my first thought is "nice editing" and nothing beyond that, I like being demiromantic, I'm comfortable with it at least, and I certainly like slow burns. In things I read, at least.
Tldr: you're making your blorbos demiromantic and I love it
