When someone all but says you shouldn’t be a parent. 👌🏻
“You shouldn’t have kids if you don’t want to do things with them,”
My boy is turning two soon, he knows his left hand from his right, he’s known his colours since around 19 months old. He can count to ten and is starting his sentences. Just because I don’t want to take my child to a park day in and day out or because I like to catch my breathe more often than others doesn’t make me any less qualified to be a parent.
I’ve breastfeed for near 2 whole years, my boy is always clean and fed. He is off the charts in height and weight and constantly outstands anyone he meets. But go ahead tell me I should parent, why? Because I don’t like being in public; my anxiety, my depression holds me back. Oh you managed to cope with toddler tantrums in public? Good for you, I can’t stand the pain in my child’s screams as we go up and down in elevators, I don’t have the energy to chase him in parks. My back hurts a thousand times over when I have to lift him to the change table let alone carry his 16+kg ass around because he refuses to hold my hand or listen when I say stop.
Go ahead and tell me I shouldn’t parent because I do it differently to you, I could make many judgments on the way you would choose to raise my son. But it’s not enough to not drink or smoke or to have never touched drugs. It’s not enough to give every ounce of your body for years to give them a fighting chance. It’s not enough to lose every ounce of sanity trying to make his father happy when he only wanted to lie and cheat. Go ahead and put me down cause I’ll just never be good enough for you. But at the point I couldn’t care less. 👌🏻