israelarcade replied to your post “approximately 8billion of my followers liked or reblogged...”
i know... like if the two characters are fighting in a playful way or it’s a training sequence (or even. previously agreed upon kink alsjdkal) then whatever but treating the act of pining someone down by their wrists as inherently romantic... don’t like that
reminds me of all those fics where the two characters are in a fight and one of them PUNCHES the other in the face... and that’s treated as resolution for the argument and the other character says “i deserved that”... PLEASE get help
oh alskdlldjsjsh i totally misinterpreted this post. ignore me
nah i like ttly agree by the by.. we like a good sexy titillating fight between equals where no one can actually land a blow on each other and its just some good dirty fun, we do not stan any type of violence between romantic partners, regardless of whether its a joke, or ‘justified’.. if you’re reached the point of harming your partner, the relationship is too broken to be called a relationship anymore. at best, it shouldn’t be treated as normal or just. i had one of my characters punch another character but it was a semi-dark fic and it was definitely called out on and they didnt even end up together bc it was like ‘given how it played out we’d be better of just being friends and supporting each other’. like hitting your partner or overpowering them can not be treated like its normal. (its just the bottom energy in me that wouldnt mind getting pinned by a girl so there is that >_>)
also het couples fighting or rather like the celebration of a man overpowering a woman, or even the usually-patronizing women overpowering a man uhh. stop that. there was one scene someone giffed on here from leverage with eliot spencer’s character, and it was really campy and he and his semi-evil love interest were fighting, but it was more like they were using their environment to their advantage so she’d like bust a water pipe and he’d get drenched and take off his shirt, and then he’d do something and she’d have to take her top off (she was wearing a bra obvs, but i swear it wasn’t even skeevy) and by the end of it they were just making out but it wasn’t like either of them overpowered the other one, they just wanted to make out, and lmfoafo it was actually so good tbh but i don’t watch leverage so i can’t link it. -_- im just saying u can have a fight between equals and it can be good.
also there’s like some untameable homoeroticism to some fighting.. a sort of unique nearness two ppl can experience.. for men obviously there can be that level of ‘the only way i can be intimate with this person is by being physically rough’ and perhaps even a resentment for the desire to be near that can show itself in violence, but i think there’s a whole extra layer for women because women are like.. not supposed to be physically violent, they’re supposed to be catty at most, passive-aggressive in their violence. so for women to be physically violent with each other, not abusive(!!) and even so i wouldn’t proclaim it’s overall healthy but it doesn’t have to be abusive!!, that can really strike me as a narrative. teppuu treated me well in that regard. and it’s like hard.. because i see a lot of narratives for men and not see the same parallels for women and be like ‘what gives bro’ even though i KNOW some narratives for men aren’t even something we should be interested in carrying over, and that equality isn’t reached by women proving themselves to be as violent and destructive as men (LIKE WE BEEN KNEW) .. but like whatever fuck it i wanna watch killing eve
someone on here once had an interesting post abt how they were interested in a kind of narrative of violence between women especially wrt repression and i cant find it and i dont even know if i reblogged it.. like with one woman or girl being so obsessed and angry with the other girl that at one point she lashes out because she thinks she was angry, but the moment she does she realizes that it’s not something she wants to do, and that she’s totally misinterpreted her own feelings.. and lmao i think this was partially abt killing eve but also like about....... fucking faberry from glee which is so valid. like the dismay of hurting someone she actually deeply cared for, but also possibly even the dismay of damaging the relationship irreparably because of it. i’m not saying its a good thing, but while we’re on the topic of narratives of violence (or i guess in this case just cruelty in general), and i got less than 3 hours of sleep last night so writing this post was my way of trying to wake up, i figured i’d mention it.