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The Love Of Your Life Will Only Come After The Mistake Of Your Life

Maybe we need to get out hearts broken first so that a new light can come in. Maybe we need to be broken to become whole.

And I understand that painful love is the worst kind of love and the worst kind of breakup. It is a relationship for which we had given everything that we have only to have someone not wanting to meet us halfway.

So, that’s why we have broken into million tiny pieces and we are overthinking why we were not able to see the red flags from the beginning. Because they are there, the red flags are always there for the ones who want to see them.

However, we all make mistakes . Sometimes we choose people who are wrong for us and we desperately try to make them right probably because our souls are still not ready for the real thing and we need to learn yet another lesson.

Because it’s through the most painful experiences that we learn the most valuable lessons.

And maybe there is no such thing as a mistake , especially if that mistake has taught us something essential about us – who we are, who we love, what hurts us. And even though we didn’t want that love to end, perhaps it was all destined to happen.

Maybe we were supposed to get our hearts broken to prepare us for the love of our life.

And when I talk about a mistake, I think about a relationship that was toxic to us, a relationship that we should have left a long time before it inevitably went downhill and broke our heart.

But for some reasons, we couldn’t let go. And it was not because that person was the right one for us, but because all was supposed to happen that way so that we can learn what true love really is.

No matter how many times we go back and try to make things work again – they never do. Because it was not meant to be.

That relationship was destined to end. Its purpose was to shake us to our core, make us so desperate and out of control that we

Healing is not an overnight process. It takes a lot of time, energy, and willpower to do it. It’s a constant decision to untie ourselves from all the toxicity around us and to become stronger so that disappointments won’t get to us.

It’s the power of knowing that we can love someone, but still, we can walk away from them with our head high because we know that we deserve better. And the love of our life is just around the corner, expecting us to come healed and whole.

And when we do meet our true love, there will be no questions, no drama, no sleepless nights. It will be a love that feels calm and caring. A love that will show us why all our previous relationships failed.

Because everything that we went through, every bad relationship or experience, was only paving the way towards the person that was meant for us.

And it will raise us to greatness. Because that’s what real love does to people. It makes them real and brings about the best in them to the surface.

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If you’re Still Hung Up on a Past Love, Here’s How to Change your Perspective. There must come a moment in our efforts to let go when we fully realize our own value. Instead of looking at our loss and what we miss about the other person, we need to absorb the fact that they lost us, too. It doesn’t matter who ended the relationship. It doesn’t even matter if it ended amicably or not. When we’re grieving for a relationship that’s ended and missing the other person like a lost limb, we’re doing it because all of our thoughts are focused on their absence, and not our own presence. I loved someone like that. I missed him so much it hurt. I wanted him back in my life for all of the ways that he made it seem brighter and better. The loss was overwhelming because the focus was so much on what I was missing. When we realize our full worth and accept ourselves for the fabulous beings that we are, we can start to shift our perspective. Just think about that: they lost us. They lost our wonderful selves. They will wake up each day without us in their lives and will miss out on all of the changes we’re going through—some of which were prompted by their loss. I had a holy sh*t moment when I realized this. When I was able to change my perspective and realize that the one I missed would be missing me, I had to take a step back. I had to take a moment to sit down. Because I know my value. Instead of constantly feeling lucky that someone chooses to be with us, we need to remember they’re also lucky if we allow them into our lives. When we start to realize our own value, we can begin to feel the tiniest bit sorry for the ones who don’t choose to share our lives when we’re inviting them to do so. We come to a point where we realize that they weren’t doing us a favor by sharing our journey. We begin to embrace the fact that they were lucky to have the opportunity to be there with us, and our absence is a loss to them whether they acknowledge it or not. They may not even feel the loss of us, but we can know that they did indeed lose something special. Sometimes our grief is wrapped up in the loss of who we were inside of that relationship, the way we felt and the magic of falling for someone. Sometimes, I have to remind myself that I don’t have a fear of heights; I have a fear of falling. And deeper than that, I have a fear of landing more than falling. Because the fall can be exquisite. Perhaps we need to fall a little more in love with ourselves. When our grief for someone else becomes too heavy a load to bear, it may be time to shift our focus inward on all the reasons that we’re a great partner. When we acknowledge and embrace our true value, we can begin to understand that we need to be with the people who understand how wonderful we are and truly want us in their lives. We can also take the time to become the type of partner we’re seeking, if we’re not already there. We can eat well and take care of our bodies, learn new hobbies and embrace every aspect of our lives. And in the meantime, we can feel a little sorry for any fool who let us go. On a good day, I feel pretty damn sorry for anyone who chose not to share this life with me. How sad for them! And this isn’t about ego—this is about understanding that maybe we’re a little too wonderful to settle for those who could so easily leave us. We need a love that’s stronger than that, and a lover who’s up to the task of being who we need. Will this help us let go? I think so. I think that when we realize that we’re worthy and of extraordinary value, we’ll stop feeling like we’re the only one who’s lost something special. We’ll realize that they, too, lost something beautiful and extraordinary. And maybe knowing that they’ve lost out when they lost us will help us to let go of them. When we finally let go, we can fall into a deeper love with ourselves and trust that our beautiful journey will lead us toward a love that sees our true worth.

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Journey of life

During the journey of life.. we get to meet so many people…some were there for brief time and a few get hooked up to your soul…some come to teach you the lessons of life and some come to you to complete you in some ways…..every meeting is pre destined …pre organized by god himself …some people set out of obscurity and captured your heart and become so important that you just cannot imagine your life without them….and once you wont get to be one with those you’re created to unite…god provides you another chance….coz two people when really love each other, has got to meet, has to be one…if not today, then somewhere tomorrow…somehow breaking all the barriers of life and death….destiny brings them close by creating its own arrangements… but those who has got to meet… has to be together…