"When did you choose to be a lesbian?"
This a typical conversation starter that I have with people who find out that I am gay. IF it was a choice would I still pick this lifestyle? Hell Yes! But did I choose it? NO. The most popular misconception about the Queer community is that we choose to live this life. No we don't pick it. I didn't pick to live a harder life, to have that awkward conversation with people that I don't love men that I love women. I didn't choose to have people not accept me for who I am or to look at my differently. I was born this way. And despite how people can look at me and treat me I would never change. I absolute love my life. I love my girl friend.
What I did have a choice with was to embrace my lifestyle. I could have made the choice to ignore the feels and led a life that was not going to be fulfilling to me. Or even better I could have chose to be in a relationship with a man and to suppress and hide my homosexual feelings. But I didn't. Sure at first I did. I chose to attempt to be with men in Middle School because the feelings were there. But when I entered High School and my sister got married to her Wife I figured what was the point of hiding the feelings and be ashamed of who I was. I embraced it. I came out to the world that I lived in, in order to be free. Now did I receive push back? Yeah of course but I didn't choose to be a gay I was born that way. It is apart of identity and something I was embracing. Was I pushed back in the closet? Of Course (more about my coming out story in a post to come later) but here I am today loud and proud of who I am.
I have been in a homosexual relationship for the last 6 years of my life. I met my girlfriend first day of freshman year in High School and as you would say the rest was history. So when someone says to me "When did you choose to be a lesbian" I say to them I didn't I was born this way. I just chose to embrace it. And I really hope that you choose to embrace your own sexuality!
