#kaitalksgeneral

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Reminder to everyone that Non-binary lesbians exist and that they are just as valid in their lesbian identity as people that identify as women.

If you believe that the inclusion of Non-binary lesbians is misogynistic and/or invalidating to women you can go argue with the wall.

Gender non conformity has always and will always be part of the lesbian (and queer) experience. If you feel like women are being devalued by the inclusion of GNC and NB people under the lesbian identity you need to do some serious introspection.

Non-binary lesbians are lesbians, transmasc (as in person that wants to align more with masculinity) lesbians are lesbians, GNC lesbians are lesbians.

And I'm talking about ALL non-binary people. Recently I had someone say that only female aligned non-binary people are allowed to call themselves lesbians and that's just fucked.

Gender is a social cunstruct. Lesbians are lesbians. Please keep your bigoted beliefs out of my Lesbianism, thanks.

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I'm a whore for attention...

Legit I'll do anything for you just as long as you pay attention to me and praise me. Tell me I did good, hug me or just a lil kiss on the cheek and I'll legitimately do anything you ask.

You want a super complex meal? I just need you to praise me and acknowledge my efforts and it's yours.

It's 2am and you're craving a cake? Mama it's all yours just give me snuggles afterwards.

Send me a message that you were thinking about me? I'll send you the horniest pic mankind has seen, love

You look at me and talk to me even when we are in group settings? You make sure I'm not talked over? You notice when I'm getting overwhelmed? I might just get on my knees right there (and then and put a ring on your finger).

Give me your attention and I'll give you the world, the moon and all the stars <3

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Having a chronic pain flare up and it makes me wish I had a cute girlfriend to cuddle and coo at me while I whine about the pain and tell me it's all gonna get better soon and that I'm right it's so unfair that I'm in pain right now.

Want the cute stuff and all the attention and love please <3

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Once again it's 2am and I'm questioning my life.

Everywhere I go in lesbian media I'm bombarded by the butch/stud and femme terms and every time I come out of it confused. I see so many lesbians saying how they are butch4femme or femme4femme or butch4butch and it feels like there is no space for someone that is neither (albeit I'm sure there is and I just don't see it)

The butch/femme dichotomy confuses me mostly because I can't find my place in it. I'm not masculine enough to be widely considered butch even tho I don't wear make up and all you'll find in my closet are legging, jean shorts, plain tees and flannels and I also don't think anyone has ever called me "lady-like". And I'm also not feminine enough to be seen as a femme. Yes I enjoy some parts of traditional femininity but I also have never walked in heels and my nails have never seen the faintest shadow of a manicure when if I keep them long. Also I feel deeply uncomfortable being considered in a feminine role because of my gender identity. (I know, the butch/femme identity is much more than what I've listed but let's keep it simple please)

I've read that "well if you aren't butch or femme you're just Andro" and like... Maybe but what does that even mean? I don't look androgynous (mostly because androgyny has been equated to skinny able-bodied white people of which I'm neither skinny nor able bodied.) And even if I were Andro where do I even fit in the lesbian community? All I see when I look around is about butches and femmes.

This is not to undervalue butches and femmes, they are an incredibly important part of our community. However, I do still feel... Idk how to put it. Left out? Like I'm missing out on some magical part of our community that I just don't understand. And maybe it's because I'm NB so these terms simply don't apply to my experience/I cannot fit into them.

I'd like to hear other lesbians opinions on this.

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The fact that I don't have a partner that can dance to Hozier with me while we really should be cleaning or doing something else is CRIMINAL

What do you mean I don't have anyone to dance to Jackie and Wilson to? Would that I? Like real people do??? Yeah no life isn't fair

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Just need someone who's arm I can hang onto while we walk.

Just need someone to share music with while we're walking around, listening to a shared playlist.

Just need someone who's hand I can hold at all times.

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I am short, but having been alone, I know how to get anything from the top shelf at the store or at home.

I am not strong, but having been alone, I know I can open my own jars, carry home heavy grocery bags and lift way more than I seem able to.

I am independent, I know that cause I've been alone, I don't need much help to do what I need to do.

And still I'd let her do it all because I would love to see the way her eyes would light up when she gets to help me do something <3

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Who needs bitches when university fuckes me every day