Authentic communication. So often relationships boil down to the ability to speak clearly and compassionately. This requires a true vulnerability. Today I had an opportunity to practice this. I had to admit that I messed up. I brought my humanness into the room and let it sit there between me and him. My vulnerability sat between the two of us, hovering. I felt a simultaneous sense of relief and hesitancy. The room filled with tenderness, a reflection of two humans sitting across from each other trying to navigate the terrain of language, communication, seeing and being seen.
I am hesitant to use the word “authentic” for fear of playing into the word play of western spiritualism. A dictation of rules to be prescribed to demonstrating how spiritual one is. If you use the right words. Say the right phrases. Play the right game — then you are on the spiritual path. The process is a commandeering of language, sculpting it to fit certain ethos.
Language sets people apart as much as it brings people together. It is an identity distinguisher. It communicates where you come from, who you are. It reveals your socio-economic and cultural background. Language breaks down and creates barriers and provides a glimpse of first impressions. Language creates words. Words create prose, poetry, songs which in turn creates language.