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I do get you Emman. There’s really no other option to rest.

Living is so tiring.

This world is full of noise, exhausting.

No one truly, genuinely and sincerely there for you.

We tried really hard, but even trying is hard to do.

Our heart aches before sleeping until sun rises.

Still it felt no healing for these souls that cries.

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What the fuck? Pati my interest sa Interior Design you trynna copy? How low can you get low?

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I cannot watch the show “shameless”.

It’s because It triggered me so easily with “shout”, “violence”, there’s so much hurt in that show that makes me relive the pains I’ve endured for the past years towards my family.

Not being supported, validated. Got judged, verbal, physical and sexual abuse were tolerated, I have so much hate even now. And it keeps me wonder how I endured loving and hating them at the same time.

My ultimate dream when I was teenager was to runaway. Runaway from that house because it didn’t feel safe, I don’t felt understood, I wasn’t heard and to them I was just a simply teenage rebel. It wasn’t my home.

I searched outside the kind of belongingness i longed. I thought it would be in the hands of my past lovers. Only to found out it is my own self. I learned I had no one, and so became contented about it.

But why when my therapist mentioned that “you know sometimes detachment are hardest. We keep expecting from the wrong person.” It still aches me.

And I knew my path was different from what usually is when she said “you can accept to call them biological mother or blood related but not someone you mean to be Mother or Family. It is okay to be different. The soonest you can accept your reality, the easier it is to let go of your ideals, expectations.”

And it is sad, I felt sad because she’s correct.

People never walk in my shoes to judge why I disown my family. People weren’t abuse like I was, they weren’t in this experience , and these family members if they can accept it is what it is, I can’t. No matter how selfish I would look. I chose to rewrite everything in my life going forward. They’ve never been with me.

I watched the “Believe Me” movie. Then I cried after this scene-i knew i just need to release my emotions.

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Introvert

Today napansin ng gym coach ko na introvert ako. Sabi nya nung una pa lang dahil di namamansin o nasa sulok lang ako. Sanay talaga akong mag-isa, simula pagkabata magisa naglalaro, nagaaral. Taong library ako highschool to college, basta iba ang mundo ko. Kaya nakakatuwa din na may ibang tao na nakakapansin pero di ako pinipilit makihalubilo.

It takes time for me to make friends, sa work almost 2 years bago ko naging super close yung mga tinuturing kong bffs na din ngayon. It took me din months para makisabay sa kain sa teammates ko. Kaya kong makisama pero pili lang talaga yung people who I’ll allow in my circle.

Madalas na misconception sa aming introvert is ayaw namin sa labas, or siguro dahil infj ako. I’ve done so many things alone travel, eat out, shopping, movies, etc. but it doesn’t mean I don’t go out, i am just picky what events I’ll join and who I’m with.

Natuwa lang ako na sobra pala talagang obvious ng pagiging introvert ko. As I become older naman lalo na nung nagmove out ako sa bahay ng parents ko, nakita ko yung laki at lawak ng mundo. Natuto na din ako makisama sa ibang tao, yun lang talaga end of the day for us introverts we feel comfortable in our own home. Minsan di na ko lumalabas sa weekend except if maggym lang. so staying at home is not a problem.

Small quality friends, i prefer that.

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I don’t know I usually create a blog post whenever major thing is going on. Or if i keep talking in my mind. But we’ll see I’ll start in this way first.

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I am thriving especially this month. But I just thought reminiscing good things and sharing might help me get through.

Third Anniversary

Hindi na nga ako pala post o tagasulat gaya ng dati, tuwing nagmumuni muni nakakapawi pa din ang pagbabasa ko dito sa blog ko, marahil dahil wala masyadong may alam. Kaya malaya ko nailalabas lahat.

Marami ng nangyari sa tatlong taon na nakilala ko tong tao to. Marami na agad yung pagsubok, mas kilala ko na din sarili ko, maraming natutunan.

Eto yung unang celebration namin na walang pangamba o duda o takot sa sarili ko. Siguro dahil naabutan din ng pandemic. Yung pagkakataon temporary na nagsama kami daming nadiscover sa isat isa.

Hindi ako yung typical na babae na nagpapaligaw, never ako naniwala dun. Kapag gusto ko at interesado ako sa tao, walang confusion, it’s direct dating or not. Yes or No. May pros at cons yung ganitong style of dating ko pero this what works for me.

Gusto ko kasi onset pa lang malinaw na tayo sa intentions at motive. Napakarami ko ng experience sa flings at love kaya pinakanatutunan ko is be clear, along the way kahit gano pa kayo katagal you’ll deeper get to know each other. Di mawawala yan. Kahit mag asawa na kayo o may anak na. Everyday is a new day to get to know your partner.

This is my second serious relationship, wag na natin isama yung mga fling hahaha Hindi na din tayo pabata, kaya siguro mas alam ko na gusto ko when it comes to dating. Importante din na dapat kilala mo sarili mo, dapat buo ka, dapat handa ka, kahit you’re healing o kaya madaming fears if you really meet someone and it gives you different feeling you’ve never had before, and you want that to stay in your life, be honest about it.

Sobrang bigat na din ng pinagdaanan ko sa pagibig, i longed for someone the belongingness I craved. Masyado akong nasanay magisa na pakiramdam ko wala ng gusto makasama ako. O kaya i feel ashamed sa sarili ko na kuntento na ko na ako lang. Pero kapag nakilala mo pala talaga yung taong mapapa “shit, i think i like him, i want him”. Magiging matapang ka sumubok ulit.

Madami pa kami matutunan pero for now I love the person I am when I am with him.

[thisismelei]

So grief looks and feels like this.

I haven't lost anyone so close to me not until my grandmother died. I saw myself still grieving at the same time continue living.,

I never knew grief could look beautiful. Like it brings you tears because it allows you to remember moments. That it has warmth as you reminisce what it feels like hugging with them. It is a song we can all get LSS as we hear their voices through our hearts.

Thank you for allowing me to have a picture of this emotion.