#let-downs

[emotional-landmines]

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[queerzaza]

Hey Zaza. I went on a second date with a guy I met on a dating app and it was really unremarkable. I dreaded going and was counting the minutes until I could leave. He was nice and never did anything wrong, but he’s low-key very boring and I don’t see myself going out with him again. I want to let him know that there’s nothing wrong with him as a person but I don’t think we click romantically. Do you have any advice on what to say if he asks me out again?

yeah, i think most of us dating folx have sat thru “The Boring Date.” during mine i was actually spinning cutlery to entertain myself and he didn’t even notice! ugh. hopefully, your date was less oblivious and realised tht you weren’t enjoying yourself. if not, and he asks for date #2, then letting him hear what you told me, is a perfect response. “thanks, but no thanks as i don’t think we are a romantic match.” type of reply is wholly acceptable. 

here’s to hoping he takes the let-down gracefully and moves on. if not, remember tht you don’t owe him any more than what you’ve already said. as your reply is sufficient while remaining kind. good luck to you turtledove!

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Leadership Let Downs

[mistymountainreverie]

The Big "Let Down"

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The Big "Let Down"

Is your imagination strong?

Why do you ask, you might say

Do you feel wronged

when things don’t go your way?

You look around

at the life you have

count blessings you found

so you aren’t mad

at the dissipation of

the one you dream of

going bad

There’s no sense in it

The sadness accomplishes nothing

You’ll drive yourself mad if you sit

and rehash the disappointing

turn of events as they unfold

Oh how I wish life were not so bold

I’m tired of having

no one to love and hold

I need someone

to give it all to

Who will accept me

cherish me and be true?

Not much to ask really

But it is though

A good person I am

A warm and loving soul

Forever looking and seemingly unable

to find the one to make me whole

[lizanya1024]

Being let down

Every single time I'm let down, I give that person another chance to prove themselves. I stopped talking to someone for 2 years and as soon as they asked for a second chance, they were given it. I had just gotten over not having them in my life. Now I'm in a predicament where I've literally given this one person so many chances in the last year that I'm completely exhausted. This time was a big let down. I needed her to be there for me, and she picked a guy over me. I've been friends with her since we were in diapers. I never EVER thought that it would ever get to the point where she would let me down because of a guy. I guess I should have known better. I should have known her better. Why is it that we always give people more chances than they deserve? They always prove us wrong, yet we will always give them another chance. Is it because we believe that they are different, or is it because we want to test them to see how long it will take for them to blow it this time? You question if you deserve better than this, and in the end you do. You deserve much better. You deserve friends that will be by your side no matter what. I have a few friends that I know will always be there for me. In fact, the night that the other friend let me down and wasn't there, one of those friends kept me company by texting me all night, making sure I had a support system. And I will always be grateful for him and the other few friends that have always been there. But something always, I don't know, surprises me when I get let down by the same friend that always lets me down. Something breaks inside of me. Something, makes me so mad, and upset and just infuriates me every single time. And I know, I know every single time I give them a chance it's only a matter of time until the next fuck up. Maybe I expect too much of them? I really don't think that's it though. I expect to be treated and respected the same way that I treat a friend. I know I've been better to her than she has for me. But she's been in my life so long, how do I just let go? I know that, after I get over it, I will be happier but right now it seems like it would take so long and so much energy just to get to a new normal. I hate myself for caring so much. If I had no emotional attachment to people, this would be a lot easier.

[ill-tse]

quite depressed and stressed out as of late. does that mean im growing older

[infinite]

i literally love your blog i'm so happy i found it!

aww i'm glad, thankyou so much!!!