According to Twitter you literally stayed up all night watching The Bachelor.
Yes. I started writing a 500+ word essay about why, but then Tumblr ate my response. Too tired to attempt again right now. Short answer - the show is like if the Stanford Prison Experiment and the Milgram Experiment decided to get married and a 10-year-old girl from the 1990′s planned the televised wedding event.
But that’s not why. The reason why is because IT’S BRILLIANT TELEVISION and no amount of after-the-fact intellectual think-piece essays (though if you want to read, here’s a good one) will make you smarter or better than the show. It’s not even sleight of hand trickery, it’s not trying to pull one over on you the viewer, it knows that you know all the tricks it has and yet they still all work somehow??? How???
Storytellers of all types should study this show. Actors should do these testimonials as monologues.
It’s the fakest reality show there is and the mother of all reality television tropes and yet sometimes you see a tiny scab of something passing for real and it’s like… oh man. Because like, it’d be easy to say these things were scripted, but I think it’s more precise to call it contrived - the producers throw real and vulnerable humans into these incredibly convoluted circumstances and just… wait and see. It’s horrible and riveting because it’s a terrible mash up of real and not real happening to actually real people who exist.
Like there’s a scene late in the season where The Guy takes two girls (Bubbly Blonde and The Villain) on a date where he’s going to eliminate one of them at the end, that’s just how the show works. And it’s at the Bahamas on a beautiful private island. And there’s storm brewing. And in a totally unexpected/expected moment, he dumps The Villain when she’s never been more sure of herself, and gives the Rose to the Bubbly Blonde. The Guy and Bubbly hop on a boat back to the mainland, leaving The Villain behind stranded on a rocky shore, waves crashing around her in epic fashion. The camera racks from them (happy, leaving) to her (totally blindsided, humiliated). Then we pull back to absurd drone footage - The Guy and Bubbly are long gone now, and we see The Villain is ALL ALONE on the island, a tiny human speck dressed in purple - they must have cleared all the camera crews out somehow, because she really is just all alone there, waiting for whatever happens next. And it’s almost impossible not to feel empathy towards her?? Because as horrid as she’s been, as fake and contrived as all this is and we all know another boat eventually comes to get her, you have to imagine what’s going on in that girl’s mind as the producers are like, “Okay, honey, we’re just gonna all clear out and get this one last shot of you alone on the island, just stay there while we fly a drone around the island for like 20 minutes and then we’ll get you, hopefully this storm that’s brewing doesn’t push us behind our shooting schedule.” And she’s just standing there, freshly hurting, letting this happen. And you have to wonder, like… why??? How??? OLIVIA YOU WERE SO STRONG BEFORE THIS.
The Lifetime (scripted) show UnREAL is a fabulously thoughtful and entertaining take on the behind the scenes of one of these types of shows, and when I started watching The Bachelor I told myself I was just enjoying it ironically / waiting for UnREAL to return. The series creator was a producer on The Bachelor back in the day - she talks about that here. What I find particularly fascinating is this thing she says -
“Something we explore on UnREAL is the skill set of getting people who are not actors to perform without giving them scripts… It’s this really weird skill set that’s not only manipulating people into performing how you need them to, it’s even just having an ear for syntax as people describe their experiences and editing in your head so you can build a first-person narration from people who aren’t narrators.”
I loved UnREAL and recommended it to everyone when I watched it, and I still do - it has fascinating female characters, emotional payoff, Shiri Appleby, all the great things I love. But the truth is, even at its most entertaining and thoughtful, UnREAL still isn’t as addictive as its source material.
The Bachelor has cracked some ungodly formula. I can’t in good conscience recommend it to anyone. But I can’t stop watching.