#loveteeth

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[feministcaptainkirk]

"Hey... Let's be friends!" "Uh, do we have to?"

So yeah, things are over with Ada Loveteeth.

This is going to be one roller coaster of a post because I was hesitant to blog about her because I liked her so much.  This is mostly going to be me convincing myself I didn't do anything wrong.

A couple of weeks ago, we were going to go see Wolf of Wall Street.  We had a lot of fun, we snuck in our own snacks, including a sixer or beer. It was a great night, until her grandmother died. I went to the toilet and while I was away, she took the opportunity to check her phone only to see she had missed a bunch of calls. I found her outside the screen on the phone and since I knew her gran hadn't been really unwell, I kind of got the idea that something terrible had happened. So we packed up and I walked her home. I waited downstairs while she packed and until she got in a cab back to her brother's place.

I didn't want to hassle her a lot while she away at the funeral, but we kept in pretty decent contact anyway. I felt we were getting on great. We obviously had good chemistry in person (or so I thought, more on that later) but had good chemistry over text too.

But when she got back to Dublin after the funeral, we didn't seem to miss a step. We seemed super in sync and shared a very similar sense of humor. I literally can't express how important that is to me. We walking past a shop and someone has left their sleeping baby outside in a pram. I was thinking "shit, can I make a joke about stealing that kid??" and before I had fully finished that thought, she said

"This really takes the thrill out of child abduction now they've made it this easy" Which was amazing. It's a great, great feeling. Awesome to feel that you are on the same page with some one.

This Friday lunch date was something I planned as like a bridge between our first date after the funeral and a full on Saturday night date, which was probably going to end up with us having sex.  I thought it was important to distance ourselves from having a discussion about her Grandmother dying to banging. That seemed like the non scumbag thing to do.

But, we back to her place after lunch and... yes, you guessed it, we got naked. Before anything major happened, she felt she needed to take a shower. And that's when her period started. Well, that was a definite way for us not to have sex right away. But we still made out a ton and cuddled and it felt great.

We went out for dinner the next night and we had a fun time. Good food food, great conversation and had a fantastic time chilling out in the pub after the meal. I felt super comfortable around her and I thought the feelings were mutual. I don't really want to get into another thing, but I just spent the last two years pining after someone who really had zero respect for me, so have someone I really like to really like me? That was incredibly validating.

Just because I didn't want to have sex with her right after her Grandmother's funeral, that didn't mean I never wanted to have sex with her.  So we both took Wednesday afternoon off to go back to her place for well, a nooner. Things were looking up.

But she was staying with her parents the night before and needed to get back to Dublin for an appointment at 11. The weather here in Dublin on Wednesday was ABYSMAL. Shockingly strong wind and rain. So I got a text from her on Wednesday morning saying she felt terrible and was already feeling very stressed and panicky already, but waiting in the wind and rain for a bus back to Dublin and feeling like she was going to be late for her therapist was the last straw and she was kidding herself that she could put on a display of affection and sex today. So she cancelled.

Which, while disappointing, was understandable.  I've been there and you can't force things like that. I said it was ok and I apologized if I added to any stress levels. We got to talking later on that day and she said if I wanted to get a coffee with her, that would be great. I offered to meet her in the city centre, but she said to come over to hers.

She apologized for the morning and I told her it was ok and that stuff happens. I said that I really liked her and I know that liked me and what happened in no way dampened my enthusiasm to see her. Which she took as a cue to lead me upstairs to her room.

We made out for a good bit and while we didn't have enough time to have sex (she needed to be somewhere by four) we still got naked and I managed to make her cum with my fingers. Then we get dressed, and get on a bus into the city centre. I could have headed back home instead of to town, but I wanted to spend time with her, as despite my best efforts, I had gotten pretty attached. I mean how could I not? She was a hilarious feminist with a frankly amazing body. And I felt totally in sync with her.

So we got off the bus and she tells me that she doesn't think this is working. She really likes me and this isn't anything I did, but she doesn't feel that comfortable and it's probably due to a lack of chemistry and would rather be friends.

WHAT THE FUCK??

She looked pretty comfortable when I was rubbing her clit 30 mins ago. It was a huge whiplash inducing turn around to be naked together and then half an hour later to be told that it wasn't working out and there was no chemistry.

It honestly felt like a total smack in the face. I talked about how much in sync I felt with her to highlight how totally out of left field this was. I felt like a total moron, honestly. Like I've done everything wrong. It's been a day since and I still feel very upset.

Also, can you even be friends with someone after that? While we were never officially boyfriend/girlfriend, I am only friends with one of my exes and she lives 4,000 km away. And that's how we're friends. We don't have to see each other.

While I am a pretty lonely person who probably could do with more friends, do I want a friendship as a consolation prize to all this? Fuck No.

So glad I didn't get too attached. Oh wait. Fuck.

[feministcaptainkirk]

About to head off to see Ada Loveteeth

We're going to go see Wolf of Wall Street. I'm walking down to her place and going to the cinema from there. I have a lot of butterflies in my stomach already, so that's a good sign, right? I also trimmed my beard because she was joking that it was hard to find my lips on Monday.

[feministcaptainkirk]

Ada Loveteeth Update

So yeah. Last night.

We technically didn't make out, but there was a lot of kissing.

She was having a tough day and wanted a virtual hug and I asked if she was around later because I was available for a real life hug if she needed one. She was finishing up really late, so we met up at a pub near us.

I wasn't sure if this was a date or a friend meet up because she was having a tough day and I lived very close. I still ran a comb through my hair and changed out of my Spider-Man hoodie just in case she wanted to meet as more than friends.

The thing that was worrying her earlier didn't happen, so she was in a much better mood. We were having a great chat about Cloud Computing, Game of Thrones and Google Maps. With no table between us, it felt natural to touch her hand. My gamble paid off as she gently stroked my finger. So we ended up holding hands and it felt great. It felt very comfortable.

We finished our drinks and it was time to leave. I gave her a big hug which lasted for ages and then I kissed her. We both laughed at how it should it happened the other night when I tried to kiss her but a face full of hair got in the way,

We walked back to her place, kissed a few more times on the way and I dropped her off. I was just about to text her to say I got home safely when she texted me to say "You home yet?"

So I'm very excited about what's next.

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lushpuppy replied to your post:Date with Ada Loveteeth

This is so cute!

Thanks! I'd rather be cute than awkward, which is my main concern.

I was way happier than I should have been for that comedy show to be cancelled. It gave us a chance to have a long chat about feminism and other things, which was cool.

[feministcaptainkirk]

Date with Ada Loveteeth

Went well, I think?? It was a great evening, which was less painful than I thought it'd be. Mainly because the comedy show we were going to see got cancelled. I only wanted to go to meet the promoters as I'm performing at the venue soon (I'm waiting on a date). I thought it'd be good for them to put a face to that guy they've been talking to on Facebook. But it was billed as a night of Dark Comedy, which could have gone SUPER badly. It was cool of Ada to come with me, but I'm super happy we didn't have to sit through comedians being deliberately edgy to get laughs.

So just bar hopped on our way home (we live quite close to each other, so we walked from town). It was a lovely evening and she is great company. She completely changed career paths a few years ago and that's awesome to me.

I'm honestly very attracted to her, not sure how she feels about me. Maybe I'm too young for her? There was a super awkward moment as I went to kiss her but her face was full of hair. Stupid wind. So we hugged and I went home.

Not sure when we are seeing each other again? Soon, maybe??

[feministcaptainkirk]

While Roz Doyle did cancel today, I do have another date tonight...

... I think.

I met this woman, Ada Loveteeth, a few months ago. I'm calling her Ada Loveteeth because she is a software developer (Ada Lovelace is the founder of scientific computing), on our first meeting she said I have lovely teeth (seriously, the way to my heart is through telling me hair and/or teeth are great) and theladybrain told me I should.

ANYWAY. We met for coffee, had a good time, but she was moving house at the time, and was seeing someone else so I got lost in the shuffle. It happens. We've tried to connect over the last while, but we were either too busy or sick or both.

We're meeting tonight for a drink and off to a comedy show. We both have a safe word if it's too awful for us to bear. I feel I'll break before she will.

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Drew Smith was a teacher in Canada who taught English, and kept relationship with students after they have left the class. One student, Soohee Jean, who knew Drew was also a very good musician, teamed up with him to create this beautifully animated music video for "Love Teeth". It's a good ol pop rendition of solitude and heartbreak. Good stuff all around. Drew is set to release his new record, The Secret Languages, in the next few months.

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Drew Smith - "Love Teeth"