Can you explain your vision for foolhalo (I think I’m standing at the crossroads of whether or not to ship/get super invested in them)
well, theyre obsessed with eachother tbh
they hate eachother, they love eachother, theyre best friends, theyre sworn enemies, theyd kill eachother for funsies and die for eachother in the next heartbeat
they trust one another to care for their egg children, share resources, find eachother at the first sign of trouble, spend hours together fighting and laughing and adventuring
theyre best friends, theyre family, they annoy the shit out of eachother but would be lost without the other
two sides of the same coin, destined to meet and throw down on sight
ugh, i feel like i'm coming to a crossroads in life rn. please send me advice or perspectives or whatever but–
how do you move out? how to do gather the courage and financial stability to move out (from your family home or bad situation)?
like i know it sounds so simple but i've been such a timid and neutral person through it. i guess i'm just looking for stories of how you've done it, or anyone in a similar situation to mine. let me know?
>>>> gonna talk too much & give context below the cut>>>>
lol, i know the answer is : JUST DO IT.
also– i'm okay, i just need to talk about it with someone. but i'm honestly such an indecisive scaredy-cat. i need a push or someone to plan it for me– which i know is not realistic, but it's where i'm at lol.
preface: i've lived away from my family home/my parents in college at 18-22; with their financial help. i was unemployed/limited hire/commissioned/interned-ish through to 24, then got this temp-turned-full-time job from 24 to 26 (now). i lived through a killer commute cos the pay wasn't enough to cut it, and my boyfriend's wasn't either. i live off the graciousness of my parents, who don't really ever want me to leave home.
that's a big reason why it's hard for me to "leave." i'm safe, i'm comfortable in the home i've grown up in, and i'm saving $$$ while living with my parents. lol the cost is just that i'm far away from everything, the occasional nagging chore, and my own self-doubt.
>>>>> sidenote: my filipino parents also think it's indecent to live with your boyfriend before marriage????? huh??? – i don't have many family members or cousins (around my age) who have done it. so i would be one of the first, and that's a ~big deal~ (but i've also been with my guy for like 7 years now........)
my guy's situation is... complicated but also totally simple. his parent's split when he was younger and he grew up with his sweet and caring mom. but when she moved into the mountains during college (where there is no wifi or connection to anything), he started to live with his dad, who so badly wants his approval. the only thing is, is that when he was a toddler his dad had an affair with his brother in-law's wife = my boyfriend's aunt. so that tore apart two families and his cousin became his step-sister. his older sisters cut out their dad out of their life completely, but my bf hasn't. he has a younger step-brother through his dad's affair now and they are NOT close. no matter how close his brother wants them to be. and thats' coooos his whole dad's side of the family are ~r*cist, classist, misogynistic, h*omophobic, tr*nsphobic, cowardly, tr*mp supporting bootlickers!~ tbh i stomached it for a little bit, but after something that happened in april i haven't been over there since. i've never let my parents meet them even after 7 years, i'm just terrified of what bullshit they'd say to them. i'm appalled by their continuing ignorance and my boyfriend is hitting a breaking point too–
so yeah, he wants to fucking move out.
....i feel so bad for holding him back. i love living with my family, the ease of seeing them and saving money for myself– but he can't breathe at his 'home'. ugh, i was waiting for the 'work from home' news from my company to break first, but i don't know when it's coming. i always wanted him to wait so he can save up as much money as i have, so he has a cushion of 'untouchable' savings– but he only just got a fulltime gig and it's pay is still abysmal. – and the family situation is just so unbearable, i don't want him to be picked on by them any fucking more.
i don't know.
we're going to draft up a plan and try to get our own apartment by mid-fall. i'm going to speak it into existence now.
it'll be a happy event when we do!! we're just coming from opposite ends of a spectrum, where i feel like i'm having a coming-of-age moment and he's escaping a toxic environment. i'm not exactly sure how to approach it, or who to talk about it too cos i feel like i'm just very sensitive and protective over the topic.
please give me any advice or encouragement that you have!! about moving out and dealing with shitty 'in-laws'......
and tubbo got permission from the admins before he started digging, and if other members seriously have a problem with it they can just roll back the server to a previous backup.
precisely
(also, bbh is being dramatic for rp and is literally having to tell his chat off currently for chathoppers - do NOT send hate to bbh either and STOP BACKSEATING)
