#misgendering 333

[theaterofpain]

coercively gendering ppl for the sake of ur politics is still coercive gendering

[theaterofpain]

the thought of someone looking at me and seeing that i have like idk boobs and a round face and pear shape body and deciding that im dfab And Therefore a trans man gives me the exact same type of dysphoric freakout as cis ppl looking at me and seeing that i have boobs an a round face etc and decided that im dfab and there fore a cis girl so like im just saying

[theaterofpain]

im still fucked up over tht. like. its apparently ok to coercively assign genders to ppl as long as its not what cis society assigned to thm?? lol?? like?? how are you gonna look at a cis woman or a dfab nb person or an intersex person that """looks""" """dfab""" an be like nah ur a man. like on top of that being fucked up inherently you cannot tell what someones assigned gender is by lookin at their body OR their presentation???????????? weve been trying to spread this idea so hard and this is where we get to???? auuuugggghhhhhhhhhhh

[theaterofpain]

"i tag all cafab ppl as men cw" yes i agree that coercively assigning ppl genders is a ideologically good thing to do thank you

[theaterofpain]

Hello, I was asking for her to apologize for accusing my friend for being a Transphobe, homophobe, sexist, etc. for follow one person that is exactly like that. I can agree, There are people that were belittling her and my apologies. I did not mean to cause any harm but to state that is wrong of her to say and must apologize. But instead she gave me a death threat.

cost never accused myfirstfelony of those things, woof said that hotdiggedydemon was those things, not myfirstfelony. woof assumed that someone who was following hotdiggedydemon and liked his art upholds those same things, of being a transphobe homophobe etc, and is in general uncomfortable with seeing ppl around woof reblogging things from someone so shitty, so that was why woof wanted your friend to unfollow. but woof didnt say your friend is any of those things, to be clear. woof just needed them to unfollow and that was it, problem solved.

you say you didnt mean to cause any harm but you purposefully stayed on costs blog and liked and reblogged everything when you were aware woof wanted you to stop. cost apologized for giving the threats and is aware that that was wrong, woof is sorry. but its important to realize you really escalated the situation badly by doing these things to cost. cost has nothing to apologize for for getting upset and scared because of all of you ganging up on woof.

even now there are some people trying to get onto costs blog presumably to harrass cost more. all of you need to stop, get off of costs blog, and delete the posts you reblogged from woof. everything is cleared up between myfirstfelony and cost now so please get your friends to stop and dont do something like this to someone again, it was an awful experience for cost and caused alot of grief for myfirstfelony too, when it could have been something resolved easily between cost and myfirstfelony.

[theaterofpain]

so benedict cumberbatch misgenders a trans woman and says shes "a confused kid who doesnt know enough abt his gender", goes on endlessly abt high functioning sociopaths and apparently thinks thats just the most charming funny thing ever, compares autistic kids to frankensteins fuckin monster, makes fun of rap lyrics, is pretty obviously a classist racist rich asswipe, but what ppl dislike abt him is that hes popular. yes all of us trans poor autistic mentally ill ppl are just jealous of his fame. thanks once again superwholocks

[theaterofpain]

not to mention how they aggressively abused me into feeling like i had to be a cis girl or i would kill them. maybe if that had never happened i wouldve never become a boy, i wouldve never felt like i needed to to stay alive and have some kind of identity of my own after that, i wouldve been okay with reclaiming my own femininity and my own transness on my own without intense disgust and anxiety whenever im misgendered now./ maybe maybe maybe

[astrotaiga]

i came out to my dad as agender and so now that he can't call me son he's started to refer to me as 'loinspawn'. please help me

first of all I’m really sorry you have to deal with this. your father needs to be more understanding. there is nothing wrong with you or gender.

ok. so, I’m not totally the best person to contact about this because I’ve never been mistreated due to my gender, but I’ve been in a similar situation where my parents threatened to compromise my safety if I didn’t conform to their religious ideals

but what i can see rn is that your dad is compromising your emotional well-being by refusing to acknowledge your gender identity. It’d be the best for you to contact a trusted adult about this. this can be a close family member that can help you, a school counselor if you have one (this is what I did and she was super helpful), just someone you can trust. you need to talk to an adult so you can come up with a plan together. tell them how you feel, why, and what you want to change so they fully understand what’s going on

you could also confront your father yourself if you feel comfortable enough that talking to him will resolve the issue. I don’t know him or the situation that encompasses you or your family, so I don’t know what would be the best for you. remember to prioritize how you feel.

you could also talk to your friends or other people first if that’s what you feel best with. I’m really sorry that what I can tell you is limited and I hope you’re able to resolve the problem. I don’t know how simple or complex the situation is so I hope you can act accordingly!! please tell me if you need anything else.

!!!! yeah um if anyone else has anything to add/advice please leave a comment or reply/tell me what to add to this post bc i might have not tackled this the best way