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LONG POST ALERT PLEASE READ One of the challenges muslim women wearing head cover encounters is the ability to work in a corporate environment because the 'bosses' at the top thinks their hijab is not 'corporate compliant' especially in our dear country Nigeria. So many of us have been victims of this discrimination and while something o sisters had to let go of their hijabs for their dream jobs, I do not subscribe to that idea at all. As a law student at the Nigerian Law school and during my very brief practicing years, I dealt with this and so did many sisters. Many brilliant sisters left practice because of this and not because they are not good lawyers or they don't love the profession. Top companies in Nigeria such as the Big 4 are culprits of this acts of discrimination which they dare not do in countries like the UK; why then should we continue to be victims? The Nigerian Constitution in S.4 (38[1] & 39[1]) both established freedom of thought, conscience and Religion & freedom of expression respectively. Therefore, any company/school whose code of conduct go against these sections are in violation of the Nigerian law. Unfortunately, we have accepted the ill treatments for so long that we think it is ok to keep quiet and continue to be intimidated. Should we continue to keep mum while our intelligent sisters who has lots to offer continue to suffer in silence? Remember, not everyone can be an entrepreneur... Let the talking begin sisters! #mlhposts2017 #mlhrealtalk #discussion #sistersforum

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LONG POST ALERT! Yay! We are back! And today we will be talking about marriage... again. Marriage is such a beautiful gift from God which can either be a blessing or a curse depending on the parties involved. The quote below was a comment written by someone on a post by @yasminmogahed that Imams should please grant divorce to Sisters in abusive marriages when they come asking for it: "hi dear, first of all thank you for your message! Can I ask you a question, how many years do you feel like you have lived in your life? You only lived now, everything before today, it is like not lived, it is not there. When we die and we stay in front of Allah they will ask us how many years you were in the world and on the earth, you will say one morning or morning and one afternoon. We have to be patient and make dua for the sake of Allah! It is easy to say Allah I am a believer but when there is a husband who is hitting you and you declare for divorce, in my eyes you have failed the test of Allah. Who said it will be easy, who said we will get all that we want. Everyone is being tested either with the husband, or with the health or with money, those who are getting emotional or physical abuse have to rely on Allah. Allah hates the word divorce." I don't know if this person is a he or she; but my heart hurts the way this person twisted the words of Allah and make it seem like the more abuse you can take in your marriage, the more pious you are as a believer; this is a scary believe which unfortunately will be passed to different generations of this person just like he/she received it. I have been married for 5 years and NO it hasn't been all rosy, we have withered stormy weather and I know more will come but both of us are willing to make it work for Allah's sake! Some people are trying really hard to make it work but it is not, so what do we do? Tell them to stay because they are promised jannah, by who? Let get talking sisters. #MLHposts2017 #MLHrealtalk #discussion (at Lagos, Nigeria)