I agree with most of what you say but are you sure saying that members of the LGTB+ community are conforming to "straight lifestyles" if they don't use the word queer? I use the word queer because it's much easier for me to use that word but calling people who don't use it sounds kind of on the verge of rad fem like to me? I mean, just b/c they don't want to use the word queer does not make them disconnected from the "gay lifestyle." And we shouldn't make standards for it like rad fems do either
[2] Sorry if my last ask sounded kind of heated but saying that if members of the community don't do a certain thing sounds a lot like rad fems saying that if you don't have a certain opinion about something you're not really a part of the community. It just sounds a little judgemental.
If you’re talking about the post I think you are, anon, I explicitly clarified that I did not want to imply any such thing. to quote:
“Wanting to not identify as ‘queer’ does not automatically mean you want to conform to straight lifestyles. The wording of my tags may imply otherwise, so I want to state that explicitly.”
As I used a double-negative, i can see why this is confusing. to say it a different way:
identifying as queer is one way of showing you don’t identify with/conform to a ‘straight lifestyle’, so to speak. but it is not the only label used to identify as not-straight (or not-cis).
I just want ‘queer’ to be respected as a perfectly acceptable label for non-straight/non-cis people again, just like all the other myriad of labels that exist and are equally valid.
aaaaand I’d like that to be the end of the identity discoursing on this blog for a while, at least as a main focus. back to fandom talk.