Jul 28, 2015
pixieorsomething with my husband I have had to stop and say "you're doing that thing where you're turning this into a conversation about how horrible you are rather than listening to me" or “I am trying to talk to you about why I’m upset/bothered and instead you are making this about how you’re THE WORST”
however this only works if they’re receptive to it - my husband knew that his tendency to cope by becoming super passive agressive and climbing up on a cross was something he had and didn’t like about himself, I can’t imagine it working very well with someone who doesn’t recognize this as a negative coping strategy they’ve picked up
