My parents’ expectations and my plans are incompatible
Today, I had that talk again about my parents wishing I (someday) get a boyfriend and get married and have kids and stuff like that.
I keep trying to explain them that those stuff are not part of my plans for my future. But they still hope I will change my mind when I’ll get older (I’m currently 20 so... I can’t blame them for hoping).
They understand I’m not interested in guys, and understand I don’t want a bf, but they hope I’ll get one in the future. Bf or any kind of partner is not in my plan and I don’t think it will change : I’m asexual and more than probably aromantic and I have no interest in romantic stuff, it has been so for as long as I can remember. I’m 20, yes, but I don’t think it will ever change. A girlfriend? Same, not interested. And getting married, well, it will be hard to organise such an event if I have no one to get married with.
About kids, it’s a big “no way”. I can’t stand noisy kids in the street or in public transport so if I had to deal with kids at home almost 24/7, better expect the worse. I know I won’t be a good mom, just by seeing how I react to others kids in the street. Don’t let me alone with kids for more than 2 hours.
Another thing that make me not want kids is pregnancy. This may hurt some persons reading this but I don’t really care, it’s JUST how I see this all pregnancy thing. Prengnancy is carrying a kid in your belly for 9 months. Some people find pregnant women beautiful or something like that. I don’t. If those women are happy this way, good for them. But me, I just know I couldn’t. For me, pregnancy is like you have a parasite in your belly that you can’t really take away. That parasite will grow and completely deform your body and take all the food/nutriments you’re getting for yourself. Then you’ll have to suffer like I don’t know what to give birth to that parasite and you’ll have to feed it for the next 20 years or so. No thanks. It looks like you become like a slave to this thing.
Where do I see myself in 5 or 10 years ? Living alone with a cat, maybe abroad, working in a hotel, being able to travel the world when I want to without having to think about anything else than my travel. Don’t think I’ll be alone or lonely, I like having time alone where I see no one. And I’ll still have my friends anyway. And I also plan on going vegan. I want to be free.
I can’t blame my parents to hope stuff for me. They know what I think and still hope I’ll change my mind in 5 or 10 years.
