#poetofwar333 ・・・ Please tag a introvert It’s no secret that introverts hate small-talk. It’s superficial, meaningless and quite frankly, a waste of time. An introvert doesn’t care what you think about the weather. They want to know more. They want to dive deep and know your purpose, your values and why you get up in the morning. And as it turns out, introverts are onto something. Research has found that meaningful conversation is actually good for us. A recent study, published in the Journal Psychological Science, involved college students who wore an electronically activated recorder with a microphone on their shirt collar that captured 30-second snippets of conversations every 12.5 minutes for 4 days. This created a “conversational diary” of their day. The researchers then went through the recordings and categorized them as small talk or more substantive conversations. They also looked at how subjectively happy each person was. The results? The happiest person in the study has twice as many substantive conversations, and only one-third the amount of small talk, as the unhappiest person. In the New York Times, the lead researcher of the study, Matthias Mehl, discussed how human beings – both introvert and extrovert – are social animals who have a need to connect with others, and meaningful conversations connects more than small talk does. So the question is, how can you skip the small-talk and engineer more meaningful conversations? We’ve come up with 5 questions you can ask someone that leads to deep conversations. Before we get to those 5 questions, there’s 3 important principles we need to understand to first. From @a_god_in_human_form