#queerclub

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“Stop making every character queer!”

Then stop making every character cishet

???

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THAT’S MY DJ 

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It’s okay to be confused.

It’s okay to be in a queer phase.

It’s okay to not know how you want your future to look like.

It’s okay to be in an existential crisis because of your sexual/romantic/gender identity.

It’s okay to not have figured it out yet.

Take your time.

Someday, you will have figured it out.

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INTRODUCTION!

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Hello! This is your safe space for everything but especially queerness on tumblr. It now is more important than ever that the queer community is available, big and loud; that we as a community, support each other.

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My name is charli, I am a genderfluid bisexual therian located in germany. I use all prns and my theriotypes are grey wolf, calico cat and crow, I also have adhd.

I am too, currently, questioning demiromantic; I will try out this label for a bit and we’ll see.

My special interests are music, politics especially right wing politics and why so many ppl are currently voting for it, aswell as queerness ofc. (I mean, its a part of me so)

I listen to everything except hard hard rock; mostly kpop but that depends on the day

꒦꒷꒦︶꒦꒷︶꒷꒦꒷︶꒷꒦︶꒦꒷꒦ ๋࣭ ⭑WHAT I WANT TO DO WITH THIS ACCOUNT

-Create a safe space for minorities, mainly queers

-Inform

-Explain, help, interact with the community

-Be a helping hand with also especially your problems and stuff

-News and discuss also political stuff

-Spread positivity

-Basically anything

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˗ˏReminder that you dont need a love life to have fun ´ˎ˗

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@ all (enby+) lesbians:

I need ur help pls :,)

Sooo I’m having a full on proper crisis on my sexuality (like the first crazy one in yeaaars) and the thing is, idk If I wanna try out lesbian just for funsies bcuz men get on my nerves a lot and are just not attractive (at least atm??)

And well, I’m genderfluid so Idk because lesbian/ gay is like the only term that only or mainly includes women and enbys and is known, but also??? Idk??

How did y’all know that u are a lesbian?

How are y’all enby + lesbians feeling abt ur sexuality?

Can I be lesbian for 1) just because I’m fed up of men and 2) was together with a boy before?

Don’t wanna invade anything or sum

Yea thank uuu

<33

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Outing tips!♡¸.•*'

Since outing yourself is always a very personal thing and can be very exciting, here some tips for outing yourself- Wether its your first or third.

-Only out yourself when you want to and feel ready. That is very very important to make the outing comfortable, remember the outing is your thing, and you should do it for yourself only.

-Stay safe. Only out yourself to the ppl you know that will at least accept you. If you’re unsure, rather not do it than living in hell/ on the streets. Speak about queerness beforehand to get their reaction, even about your label or the umbrella term of your label.

-Prepare properly. That means preparing for the best and worst reaction possible; Genuine or rather rude questions. Be prepared to explain your label as you would to a dumbass, even use comparisons that they can understand (e.x when I outed myself to my lil bro as genderfluid I said “[…]sometimes I just feel like you, a boy, sometimes I feel like more like mom, sometimes I’m just a mix, sometimes I’m more like [name; one of my enby friends]”. Make it easy.

Questions that often get asked (with some possible answers)//Possible reactions:

> “So what does that mean now?” -> explain it again. Explain what changes for them,e.x. ‘that means Id like you to call me by they/them” /‘that means to stop shipping me with girls”

> “And what this is just a phase after all?” -> And? Everything in life is a phase. Some end sooner than others, but every phase ends with death. And even if it would be a phase, you can still support me. Just because someone is sick and the sickness is a phase, will you invalidate them?

> “So you want no kids?” ->Different answers. But there are many options for having kids IF you want them, than just biological. And there are many children that need a home. :)

> “But can I still call you with [certain set of prns]/ [nicknames that are gendered]?” -> Personal preference, just be honest.

> “That is just a trend right now. Youll grow out of it” -> queer ppl always existed and always will. Persons that say that are most of the time pretty ignorant, but it depends.

> *Tells long exhausting story of someone that apparently was also queer*-> try to get the attention back to you. This is not about random ppl, its about you. And only you. Not about the person you’re yourself outing to, not strangers, you.

> “Wait till dad hears about this! You’re dead!” -> so I used this as an example for stranger- outing, please make it clear that you dont want to be outed to other persons without you knowing/ wanting to. Crystal clear.

-Know your options. There is so much more than just going up to a person, you could also text, just hang on a flag or kinda obvious signs to let them figure out themselves, call, even go on a walk, etc. Whatever youre comfortable with!!

-TAKE YOUR TIME. So that can be different for everyone, but take your time and be patient to figure yourself out. Ik it can be tempting to out yourself three days after discovering a label, and in some cases thats good, but dont rush through.

-Queerness is a journey. Its okay to out yourself as sth and later re-out. And true friends and family will respect that.

-Be patient. Maybe its sth completely new for them and takes some time to understand. Give them space and maybe even room for questions. If they didnt get it after max a few months then try to talk to them and express your issues.

Thats all for now. I will definitely edit this, if you got problems or questions or certain situations, comments and my asks box is always open. Ofc also anonymously.<33

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It’s so funny that the USA banning gender neutral bathrooms and trans kids using gender affirming bathrooms in general.

As always, instead of making stalls safe no matter if you identify as a woman, a man, neither or Sth in between, they strategically exlcude trans ppl from their right bathrooms, and for what??

So men can’t dress up as women so they can rape them?

If men want to rape, they don’t have to dress up as anything.

Rape doesn’t happen because trans ppl go to their rightful bathrooms.

It happens because (most) men still think it’s normal to rape.

It happens because the system, the government, consists of men that thinks it’s okay to rape. That victims ask for it.

The problem is not us.

The problem is you.