So last year I got close to Danny because we were both little pigs in the musical last year. I was a freshmen and he was a junior. And he was dating someone while I liked someone in his class. Now this year, his girlfriend broke up with him in the summer, and he's been struggling ever since. And I'm dealing with depression right now. I've developed really strong feelings for him and I don't know what to do! Help? Tag this as #questionfromtyui
Hello Tyui,
I think that a good thing to do would be to gauge where he's at in relation to the break up from the summer. Whilst I usually encourage people to speak to their crush about their feelings, I think it's important to see where he's at first. This would be a good thing for both him and you: for him, to make sure he's at an okay place within himself, and isn't feeling pressured by any feelings, and for you so that you know where he's at, and don't express your feelings only to be shot down because of past hurt.
I think what you do next really depends on how he is coping. If he is still struggling, I'd recommend supporting him by encouraging him to seek professional support, and leaving the expressing of feelings until he's at a better place. If he seems to be getting better from what's happened, I'd encourage you to speak up about your feelings. You never know where things will go unless you do say them! But it can be about the right timing too.
As for yourself, do you seek professional support? If you're not, I really encourage you to either see your school counsellor or doctor and talk about what you're going through. They can give you support through this, and in finding ways to cope with the depression. I think it's important that you know there's support out there, and don't face this alone.
Take care,Alexandria.