how to write: characters slowly accepting their sexuality
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As there is more and more lgbtq+ representation in writing, there are certain things that your character might experience, like the struggle with their own sexuality. So here I present you how characters might slowly start to accept their orientation.
Feel free to add your personal experiences!
1 - give them a person they can trust.
The first step to make them accept their sexual orientation is through learning that it doesn’t matter which gender(s) they like. Give them a friend who supports them, who shows them that they are loved nonetheless.
2 - let them meet people from their community.
Talk. Experience. Ask. They should feel comfy and ask others about their experiences. Someone who shows them that they are not alone and that many people struggle with the same things will be a great help. They can meet people from their community through websites, at specific bars or at pride parades.
3 - religion.
If they struggle to accept their own sexuality because of their religion, let them meet someone with the same orientation and religion. Maybe they meet a gay pastor?
4 - give them time.
They will need a good amount of time until they accept themselves. They will struggle and questions like “But am I really [any sexuality]?” or “What if I’m actually ...?” might keep them up all night. Maybe they spend the whole day in bed while thinking about their sexuality. And that’s fine. They need the time to get aware of themselves.
5 - let them stop labeling themselves and be proud about their sexuality.
Eventually, they’ll realize that it doesn’t matter how their sexuality is called and what gender they like. They are their own person. There might be prejudices they are afraid of, but let them get prouder over the time. Of course, they might always be insecure, especially in a hate-filled world like ours. But they’ll realize that they matter regardless of their sexual orientation.
I’d love to hear your personal opinions, experiences and tips! Feel free to add them in the comments <3
