#quit doing this

[devilishdelight]

Pinterest is really starting to piss me off 😡🤬

It can't be calling me out like this dude.

[pnnzzlr]

46

[miratda]

JACK I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE AHSJAD

[lovingdevouring]

can we take the name Buddha out of Buddha bowls and call them what they really are which is Veggie Bowls pls thx

[addiemon]

Extrapolating

Re: my earlier post.

If you listen to the Judge John Hodgeman podcast, you’ve probably heard of this principle: People Like What They Like. In theory, this is easy.But throughout my fandom years- 20+ now (I’m an old!) -I’ve met numerous people in fandom who would attempt to shame me or others for the things they like. Which is hilarious because even today, there are few geeks out there who have never been shamed for liking geek things, but they’ll still go out there and try to shame others for liking the “wrong” geek things.

Did I say hilarious? I meant REALLY RIDICULOUS.

Look, as an old, I know a lot of folks on Tumblr are young, and I know when you’re a young, establishing and experimenting with your identity is key. As a master’s candidate studying consumer and fan psychosociology, I am also aware of any number of psychological theories that talk about how A) in their fandom circles, fans’ proclaimed tastes can essentially serve as shorthand for their identity; and B) even within a social group (like a fandom), the instinct to positively distinguish oneself from others is strong.

In other words: we can be strongly driven to express our identity in terms of what we like- and what we don’t.

And you know what? That’s totally fine- when you’re expressing your likes and dislikes respectfully and kindly.

But if you’re just shit-talking another group/fandom/ship, or- as in the inspiration for my earlier post -fansplaining to someone you don’t know why they shouldn’t like a ship they lightly, casually, and briefly expressed affection for -you’re not productively adding to the conversation, you’re just trying to shame someone else for what they like. You’re trying to establish your identity- but at the potential expense of someone else’s sense of self, worth, and acceptance.

I’m an old, so while it might bother me, I don’t let rando Internetters define my identity. But this behavior can literally shut others- the younger, the more anxious, etc. -into a closet where they don’t feel like they can safely express themselves.

So…just think about that the next time you’re about to lay the smack down on a random internet stranger’s Thing They Like, ya?

Yes, ships- most of em! - are problematic in one or dozens of ways. It's important to discuss those and to discuss what they do and don't mean as far as Real World Expectations, and I would never suggest otherwise.

But trying to shut down someone's tastes isn't discussion. It's just shutting someone down for something they like. That's never OK, and for all the Tumblr community's best efforts at being inclusive, progressive, and a safe space, it's really frustrating to see this happen over and over and over again.

TLDR, treat people with respect, even randos who stumble into your replies when tag surfing, regardless of what they like, provided that they're bit being straight up rude or intrusive about it.

And...go!

[akafirehxwk-blog]

[ cont. || truxicanfalconer ]

[txt; Vulture] so it's going to be like that? [txt; Vulture] fine.

[all-american-oncest-blog]

slides across carpet on face

par en ts 

s top

ple ase