If you're a parent, for the love of God don't be going through your kids shit. Let them have their privacy. I don't give a fuck if they're "under your roof", they're human beings, and they deserve respect. Going through their things is disrespectful, and if you do it you can't demand respect from them. Respect is earned, not given. It doesnt matter if you're they're parent. Also, demanding that your children have no privacy will lead them to hide things. If you just let them know they can come to you with anything (and not get in trouble for it) your children will be super open with you. Got it? Good.