#ribb-it

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Friendly reminder that the Lesbian Masterdoc isn't really a good source of "am I a Lesbian?" as one may think/may have been led to believe.

I'm not gonna touch on the "creator/writer/editor being bi, actually" thing cause I can't really find anything on that nor do I think that really matters. But I think the Doc being biphobic (mspec-phobic in general)/misandrist/misogynistic/aphobic should always be said with it.

IF IT HELPED YOU REALIZE THAT YOU ARE ACTUALLY A LESBIAN, THAT'S GREAT. This isn't supposed to be a Lesbophobic post! I just want people to be aware that the Lesbian Masterdoc isn't at all close to end all be all of Queer theory.

You can like different sexes/genders at different amounts and still be mspec. Hating men doesn't make you a Lesbian (if Straight Women can understand this then COME ON GUYS). Liking certain fictional characters doesn't really determine your sexuality. CompHet is a general Queer & Feminist thing, and not just a Sapphic/mono Lesbian thing (welcome to being Queer in a heteronormative world 🎉 / welcome to being a Woman in a patriarchal world 🎉). Hell, there are more labels out there than just straight, bi & gay/lesbian. Aspec people exist! You could have split attraction going on, and if so, welcome to the Dark Side 👏👏👏

All in all, if you think you're Queer, don't just stop at ONE (1) piece of "if you're ___, then you'll find this applies to you!". It's a spectrum, a rainbow if you will (haha), and not every ___ is going to have a carbon copy experience. Do some serious introspection folks, I love y'all ♥️

Here's some reading: 𖠊 / 𖠊 (this YTer has great bi/mspec content in general) / 𖠊

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We have AplAroAce, but do we have something like Grayplrose? GrayAAA?

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I was today years old when I found the term "solo polyamory".

I've been calling it my version of a Poly QPR lmao

I think I'm realizing at this point that I don't really want a traditional romantic relationship, but that I adore the idea of a fictional one for multiple reasons.

And I think I'm also realizing that whatever horniness I get from my lack of a sex life dictates most of my feelings in the non-platonic/familial relationship realm. Which once again is making me question if I'm vanilla Aro but completely allosexual instead of my current situation.

You can ignore this, I'm just spit balling. Being confronted with some things after finally getting into the dating scene 🤷

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friendly reminder: excluding aces from "being ace" because they don't fit this arbitrary definition you've made of asexuality doesn't make you cool :)

all this shit does is cause unnecessary infighting in the Queer community when there are cishetallos that really need reality checks :))

this won't be the last time I say this but: I hate "actually asexual" people :)))