#ritavonbees

[librarycards]

the non-binary urge to pick a name that has never been a name before so nobody can gender it vs the non-binary urge to say fuck it and keep your name because other people's perceptions of its genderedness are their fucking problem

REAL REAL REAL

i clung to sarah for so long bc i love the name and it's mine. i hated 'giving up' and using cavar, though that is as much my name as sarah is. i just couldn't take the constant questions, assumptions, misgendering, bad faith, etc. anymore.

[lonicera-caprifolium]

Oh, but what about as little pieces of him?

[copperbadge]

ritavonbees replied to your post “Because I have exfoliative keratolysis, where moisture on the hands...”

weird, all the skin peeled off my hands exactly one time in my life and i freaked out and went to the doc xD they just shrugged and said probably dermatitis tho

Yeah, usually exfoliative keratoylsis is chronic; also if it peeled off the backs of your hands at all it probably wasn’t that, since it only affects the palms and insides of the fingers. Stress can do that though, and sometimes allergies too! 

arvethli replied to your post “kenna-girl replied to your post “Because I have exfoliative...”

Omg that foot cream is the BEST moisturizer. I got some when I visited the US and I love it so much. Gonna have to order some more online.

I hate moisturizers in general, because I don’t like having greasy stuff on my hands, but like, if I have to, at least it’s a really effective one, so I have to use it less often :D 

warm-honeyys replied to your post “Because I have exfoliative keratolysis, where moisture on the hands...”

there's a name for it!? i thought i was just....defective. because no-one else in my life has this condition. thank you so much!

Yeah, I thought I was just having a really bad dry skin episode, which was partially also because it appears to be seasonal in my case (it pops up primarily in the autumn-winter and winter-spring transition periods, when it’s clammy and humid out. 

It’s actually somewhat common I think, but because usually it’s pretty mild and not painful, nobody much talks about it. I’ve run into tons of people who have it and didn’t know. 

ifiknewiwouldtellyou replied to your post “Because I have exfoliative keratolysis, where moisture on the hands...”

Wait wait wait..I have all the eczemas, including dishydrotic the palms (worsened by washing) but...would this explain the painless, non-itchy full-sole foot peeling I get? Gods, my skin is all sorts of stupid.

compromised-by-castiel replied to your post “kenna-girl replied to your post “Because I have exfoliative...”

oooooooooooh is that what it's called? I have that on my feet, for ages I thought I had athletes foot or something that wouldn't go away

It’s not as common on the soles of the feet, but yes, what you both have could very well be exfoliative keratolysis. I don’t have it on my feet so you may want to google for what to do in specific, and definitely bring it up with your doctor the next time you see them, but you could try slathering the affected areas with a moisturizer with uric or lactic acid a few times a day and see if it improves. 

maplerosekisses replied to your post “Because I have exfoliative keratolysis, where moisture on the hands...”

You know, I never considered that this would cause immunocompromise, but it seems obvious now, and helps explain why my mom is perpetually sick. She works with toddlers (the main reason she gets sick), but she also has this, and it happens more often since this started. Her dermatologist also told her there's a common ingredient in most wet wipes that can make it worse, which...again, toddlers.

Yeah, I never really took the “immunocompromise” part seriously because it’s just a layer of dermis, but apparently it’s more serious than I realized when I first figured it out years ago (also of course as you get older it can get more important). 

Your mom might want to consider Gloves In A Bottle or a similar product -- it’s a lotion you rub on like moisturizer, but it purports to bond with the top layer of skin to add a protective barrier. I used to use it when painting and it made it easier to get paint off my hands without making my hands feel weird. It can’t hurt, anyway. 

[bubblyernie]

your GO cowboys are ADORABLE and it's making me very happy picturing the Bentley as a black horse

every banjo that crowley’s carried around for more than a fortnite only plays old town roads

[flaminglikeanythingzine]

are there plans to make the digital edition of the zine accessible? i.e. 1) in a format screen readers can process and 2) with alt text? just thought I'd flag it well in advance because it's much easier to plan for than to tack on later!

We’ll definitely look into how to make our zine accessible! The digital zine will be a PDF, so the text should be fine for screen readers. Alt text for the images shouldn’t be a problem to add either. Thanks for asking!

- Mod KJ

[librarycards]

how do you, like, finish things?

For long term projects, “a little bit every day” has never failed me, 2 novels, a poetry collection, a thesis, and a dissertation in. Just commit to putting a word or sentence or paragraph or citation down every day, and that commitment will result in something: if it’s something you don’t like, you can recommit to revisions until you do.

There’s no magic sauce. It’s about doing the work every day - commitment over motivation. Also, leave yourself open to imagining new paths for your work at any time. Keep a notebook or your notes app open. These can be the ideas that help you discover your “point” or conclusion!

[librarycards]

just noticed that you had a hysto fits the fucking rhyme scheme 🤣

Borderline schizo… just noticed you had a hysto

[librarycards]

every time you reblog trans community discourse i am like wow. i don't know any of these people. really glad i had like six followers during the period of time between getting online and learning how to lurk moar (avoid commenting authoritatively on things I have no expertise in/disengage from social situations I don't understand and am uncomfortable with) tho

HAHAHA there is so much more that i scroll past like ships passing in the night etc etc, you actually have no idea how much self-control i need to exert to keep my blog mostly cute animals, plushies, art, writing/book stuff, and so on. at the same time, a lot of the discourse just makes me angry and sad, so it's easier to get myself to avoid it.

i actually had/am having a weird experience with relative social media popularity. i came on here when i was 12 (2011) and until maybe the beginning of grad school (so, 2020) i didn't have many followers. then i started book/writingposting and have since gained quite a few.

since having more followers i've chosen to comment less bc being in online arguments where you're like, waiting for the person/onlookers to respond stresses me out and is far less productive than discussions irl. that's why i simply block people who say dumb shit on my posts, or if i see them say dumb shit on others.