My mom had 10 opposition transits at the time I was born :)
we're no contact lol
The very essence of my existence clashes with hers because I am the embodiment of those transits lol every time we interacted she was reliving those 10 oppositions so it's really no surprise that the most positive (even though it was still bad) time of our relationship was when we were an ocean apart and had maybe 30 minutes of surface level communication in total every month lol
In honor of Mother's Day let's go through them!
For context she had me at 28 pre Saturn Return.
Neptune opposite Jupiter
Transit: Inflated expectations, excessive and impractical idealism and sudden disappointments. The limitations of the real world may seem very difficult to bear, because you so badly want the world to be better.
This day when she went into labor they didn't admit her immediately and told her to go walk for a few hours. I imagine she probably thought they would admit her and she would give birth immediately. Throughout my life she definitely had impractical idealisms about me as a person and it was easy to do it when I was younger because she's telling everyone I'm the smartest person on the planet so I just study and become first in my class every time but as I got older I stopped caring so I was constantly disappointing her because she would make these claims and I'd be like no that's not me, I'm not doing that lol
Synastry: Jupiter's beliefs and understanding of life become more comprehensive, tolerant, or even mystical to Neptune. Neptune needs to adapt the ideals and visions to cultural or social realities of the society. Neptune will also have to accept Jupiter's inability to put up with intolerance.
Growing up in Haiti she was definitely abiding by all the cultural and social norms of what a mother and daughter relationship should be like. Whenever we were around people it was expected that I would essentially perform it with her regardless of what happened at home right before and if I didn’t she would get upset and give me the silent treatment or be fake concerned about my feelings like “you have hate in your heart. It’s okay you can tell me!” 😬
Uranus opposite Jupiter
Transit: Events happen so fast that you will not have the usual time to figure them out before you act. You may become restless and want to be free of an excessively restrictive relationship. Someone who has been with you a long time and has seemingly been satisfied may suddenly want out. If you have been putting up with a tense and strained situation but not getting any benefit from it, you will break free of the tension now and probably experience an enormous sense of release. Even if you don't want to let go of the situation, you will probably be happier once it has gone.
This whole entire thing sounds like being in labor and giving birth! I did suddenly want out after being satisfied in the womb for months. I was due in October and came at the end of September lol always meant to be a libra but I desperately wanted to be a September libra! In life I think this manifested as motherhood for her being excessively restrictive and it being easier when I was a baby bc you just do the steps like you do for every baby but eventually I did want to become my own person. She sent me away at 11 and I literally say all the time it’s best thing that ever happened to me oops bc I can't imagine what proximity for more than 11yrs would've done to me. And she always claimed to be sad about it and would make speeches about “the separation” but never took any action to change things bc I think she was relieved to not be a mother every day lmfao same as now!! I think she's very relieved that we're no contact bc we don't have to fake it anymore and she gets to tell people the sob story and get their sympathy which is what she’s actually after!
Synastry: Both Jupiter and Uranus have common characteristics such as faith, intuition and collective codes of thinking. At first, it may seem that they have a lot in common. But if it is not true on a personal level, it will soon become clear that their views on how to live their life are totally different. At some point, they will realize that they are both at the same roundabout, but each is taking a different turn.
That's real lol I used to be very annoyed when people would say I'm just like her but eventually that's what shaped my belief that at some point your life is the way it is bc of your own choices and if it sucks well....lol 🤷🏾♀️ on the surface we're both really great hosts, very creative, always randomly in a leadership position, smart, can easily figure out problems, and we are funny as fuck lmao but we did go different ways! She doubled down in control and toxicity and I did not.
Saturn opposite Pluto
Transit: This transit represents the culmination of efforts that began 14yrs ago. It can be a time when it becomes clear that those efforts did not succeed. Time of great physical strain. Trying to get to this position you may have triggered off opposing forces, possibly enemies, which ware waiting to move in when you show signs of slacking. Time when your expectations are disappointed. You will feel that something in your surroundings gets in your way every time you move. If you have not been successful in reaching your goals, the opposing forces will be stronger than you are.
I can only speculate about this lol idk what she was thinking at 14yrs old but if my birth is the culmination I'm assuming it was to have her own family? Like I said before she does heavily lean on manipulating and controlling to get what she wants so she got pregnant by my dad and he didn't want a kid and he asked her to get an abortion and she chose to have a baby probably to make him stay (i know about the abortion part bc she yelled it at me thinking I would suddenly be sooooo grateful she didn't abort that i would never question her again lol i said you shoulda listened to him 🤗) Idk who broke up with who but then he wasn't a present father and we never saw him for years when he lived a town over so that plan didn't work! But yeah you can't slack off in motherhood bc kids need everything all the time!
Synastry: Saturn rules the material world and Pluto rules the underworld. Under normal circumstances it is like ordinary government on one hand and power based on secret services on the other. So, as a pair, you compete for dominance and influence. The clever way to deal with this situation is to make compromises that will serve as acts of trust and good will. If you do not, you may both become "paranoid" and material and social failure may follow. Trust, otherwise you will be destroyed.
Oop. This is kind of crazyyyyy! We definitely did compete for dominance and I know the jealousy was there when I was a kid bc I would naturally get more attention than her lol the double edged sword of birthing a cute kid! She was like wow I birthed my carbon copy and then oh...she doesn't have to work as hard to get attention tf?? I was always the one to make compromises until I cut contact and to this day she refuses to accept that she did anything wrong and her life is in disarray. For context growing up my mother was managing accounting departments, she was headmistress of a hospitality school, she even had her own business at some point doing accounting for small businesses. Since I went no contact she can only find work in grocery stores and can't keep a job for more than 9 months and she had to end her apt lease and is now renting a room in a random person's house...bc no one in the family will take her in 🙃 bc she has betrayed them before so not even bc of me!!
Mars opposite North Node
Transit: in medieval texts, this transit was called "the anger of the ancestors" suggesting family karma could flare up, especially if there were unresolved tensions from your family's past. When Mars rolls into an opposition with your natal North Node you're likely to feel like you're itching for a challenge or fighting against your own fate. You may feel like you're swimming against the current.
LMFAO I'M SCREAMING AT THIS! Not me being born as the anger of the ancestors lol my mother is very rebellious and she does it just to do it she doesn't even truly care about why so I can see her doing the most just for a challenge. This is funny to me because my mars in scorpio opposes her taurus NN within 3deg but she also has a scorpio mars! It opposes her NN within 6deg lol but that's not allllll my grandma also had a mars in scorpio! It's 18deg away so not close enough but the energy is still there I feel like the ancestors said enough of this shit we're sending the big guns and an 8H stellium was born lol I think abortion/choice to have a kid is the link low key bc my grandma didn't want to be pregnant with my mom and my mom found out about it snooping in her mom's shit so I think that's low key why when she was faced with the abortion question from my dad she “had” to choose the opposite of her mom even tho the circumstances were not great lol I haven't been faced with actual pregnancy yet but I am not afraid of birth control and plan b LOL
Synastry: Residual anger from past life tends to pop up. The nodal person may feel oppressed around mars person even if there's no logical reason for it. The mars person may feel like the nodal person wants payback when they haven't done anything. If the nodal person is not ready to do the emotional work, then they may be passive aggressive or even aggressive towards mars. The mars person must allow the nodal person to grow and change, while the nodal person must learn to see Mars for who they truly are, not just look at what Mars can do for/against them.
Crazyyyy bc i would feel so much malice from her sometimes but ppl would always be like oh it's not serious! She's your mom! She loves you! My mother is the most passive aggressive person and I def learned those libra ways from HER (libra rising) lol i wish she would grow and change but you can only take shit from her for so long! She was incapable of seeing me as a person! I wrote her a letter once expressing myself and she basically told me where do i expect she's going to get affection from if not from me.....LOL then for the two years leading up to me going no contact I became the "villain" in her life where everything that happened was somehow my fault and me working behind her back to sabotage her lol including other people I don't talk to ghosting her lmao
Saturn opposite Uranus
Transit: Either you will succeed in making your life an original statement of your uniqueness, or you will be in a state of extreme tension because of forces that are constantly obstructing your self-expression. You are likely to feel that your life structures are oppressive and maybe even killing you. Saturn - Uranus conflict is very hard on the heart and nervous system. You are irritated by people who try to tell you what to do. You feel that you had enough and you may throw everything away and leave.
This is also giving trapped in motherhood because once you're someone's mother that's all society sees you for and every decision that you make once you have a baby has to consider them! I was the first grandchild and she wasn't married so people did have a lot to say lol then when our relationship got to a certain point I said no to everything she said to me LOL because I couldn't predict how it would end up so I preferred to just not engage at all and she would call me boring every time!
Synastry: Saturn person clings to their own hell, while Uranus deliberately or unconsciously tries to save Saturn. Saturn's past activities or relationships, especially where there is still a feeling of obligation, appear to be in the way of your relationship and Saturn's own well-being. Uranus does not offer anything concrete. So you can get into a dead end because Saturn refuses to change, but the change is tempting , while Uranus remains on a fairly wild, provocative and untrustworthy track.
This is literally me having to be the strict adult because she would want to make these crazy decisions that would obviously derail life and I knew that I would have to be the one to fix it because I was constantly having to do that lol yes it was my hell! She wanted me to let loose more and be young but she never accepted that I literally couldn't around her because I was the one holding her life together lol I was living a completely different life outside of my relationship with her tho so whatever she was trying to save me from was manufactured lol
Venus opposite Venus
Transit: You feel at ease with yourself, benign and rather self-indulgent as long as you don't have work that must be done. Not a good time for getting work done. You may compromise on issues that really should not be compromised. The negotiation will succeed but the results will not be to your advantage.
Unfortunately there was work to be done: birth immediately followed by taking care of a newborn! Not much compromising on her end because I was saying okay to everything she said to me growing up and I was labeled as the most obedient child lol I just didn't care enough to say no and deal with her tantrums oops! She did get what she wanted out of me but it wasn't to her advantage because all it did was build resentment in me until I "turned against her" basically lol
Synastry: In this relationship, the tastes and tendencies of these two people are very different so it will be hard to find harmony and satisfaction. It is possible that there is a sense of fairness in the relationship and it will help them both to grow.
We had very opposite tastes so much so that we didn't even get each other gifts lol once I was past the age where you just buy the age appropriate gift she would take me shopping or give me money and I would buy my own gifts for my birthday and christmas lol and she STILL had something negative to say about them! Once I started getting money I think I got her 3-4 gifts ever and every time it was a weird exchange! She pretended she loved it, never used it and when we were in an arguing period she would pull it out 😀
Mercury opposite Venus
Transit: In your personal relationships you will be inclined to compromise and to meet the other person halfway, especially if you are having a disagreement. Not feeling very combative or argumentative. You may regret it later if you give in about something important. Not favorable for difficult mental work.
Pretty on brand for giving birth because you have to listen to the nurses and doctors and it's more of a body focus situation rather than a mental one and then hormones take over! This was a theme of the relationship too because a lot of times I had to not think about things that she was saying or doing lol sometime that would end horribly for me and I end up having to do extra unnecessary shit. A lot of dissociation too so I just have chunks of memory missing bc I turned my brain off so much.
Synastry: With this aspect, the Mercury person could view love on an intellectual level, while the Venus person experiences it on an emotional level. The Venus person can feel that as the Mercury person does not take the Venus person's wellbeing into account. There is conflict between the Venus person's need to give love and Mercury person's detached, cerebral reaction to it.
LOL omg!! I can't even count how many times my mother has accused me of being evil and cold and having a "heart of stone" lol but it was the type of relationship where she would do sly shit and insult me and then want to hug and kiss me in public like she's the most loving mother so I would just stand there not reacting and she would get mad I'm not affectionate! She would constantly be like "you don't love me!" and so true girl you got me there lol 😂
Moon opposite Venus
Transit: Be careful not to overindulge. You may believe that you will get everything you want from others without making any effort yourself. What is important to you now is the intensity of feeling and the interchange with another person.
I knew we had this in synastry but my moon degree is closer to 4deg away so the transit ended for her about an hour before I was actually born so I know that illusion was snatched away quickly lolll but it was apparent in our relationship too because I didn't find out until I was over 26yrs old that there are stories from my childhood that she had made up completely or the story happened to another baby in the family and this was all to manufacture closeness! But did she spend the same amount of time actually getting to know me to become close? not at all!
Synastry: This aspect creates difficulties with feelings and expectations. The Moon person may not be provided with emotional care in the way that they expect the Venus person to, and the Venus person may not be loved in the way that they expect the Moon person to. Effort needs to be made on both sides in order for this relationship to work.
Similar to mercury I feel like! She wanted someone to grovel at her existence and always say yes mommy to everything and have no thoughts other than what she wants and to have a personal therapist. Obvi that doesn't match what a child needs emotionally!
Sun opposite Saturn
Transit: You will become very conscious of the limitations imposed on you by circumstances and other people. You may find that you are actually unable to communicate with people, or that others constantly get in your way and hold you back. If duty wins out (over needs) to the point of extinguishing all self-expression, so that you do only what is expected, you will feel restless, inhibited and unfulfilled. The feeling of isolation and loneliness may be the most difficult to handle. Your energies are rather low, and you may not even make the effort to come out of yourself and communicate.
Very much the reality that yikes you're not pregnant anymore and you're leaving the hospital with a newborn that can't speak yet! I feel like if it was something else going on with this transit you can change course but when it's a baby yeah duty and obligations are winning every time. I think my godmother's mom maybe was in the room with her when I was born but my mom’s actual family was in another country so loneliness there for sure bc I'm assuming she was in the hospital alone outside of that. The story I was told by her (and my aunt) was that she was kicked out by her dad for being pregnant but then her cousin a couple months ago (yes this year when I'm 30yrs old lol) was like “what? She left the house herself after arguing with her dad bc she got a job and she was living at my house and then met your dad and got pregnant”.... soooo lol isolation from her family in a way? In my life tho she has refused to adapt to me being an adult and my own person which led to more isolation bc I pulled away until I went no contact.
Synastry: This aspect generates a situation characterized by restraint and responsibility. The identity of the Sun person may be almost completely suppressed by the authoritative Saturn person. The Saturn person, on the other hand, may feel younger in this relationship, but does not show it for fear of losing this authoritative position. This relationship can last if the Sun person does not have a strong need to fully express their own individuality.
Bruh. lol. I had no personality around her because it was always an issue if I didn't perform the personality she had for me in her head which was exhausting but arguing was also exhausting lol so yeah I think that the only reason we're no contact right now is because she didn't consult me before moving to the US 😅 she wanted to surprise me LOL but she didn't realize the only reason we still had any kind of relationship was because she was so far it was nothing for me to perform during phone convos or vacations because I could just go back to being myself when i was home and away from her lol when she was on my ass 24/7 i literally started to lose my mind and had to end that shit!
Chiron opposite Saturn
Transit: It can feel like you're being pulled in two different directions emotionally and practically. You may feel lonely, misunderstood, or like the burdens you carry are heavier than usual. There's also a sense that emotional wounds may clash with fear of failure or guilt. You might feel blocked from moving forward because past experiences of rejection, criticism, or has discipline loom larger than ever.
Again the burden of motherhood lol but the rejection thing was a theme because she always felt rejected by me and would criticize me for it but then would insult me and do weird shit and use me to dump everything that emotionally burdened her so I would logically become standoffish because I was like oh this lady is unstable and then she would get mad about that too and say I was rejecting her lol and sometimes I did reject her literally too because she used to smoke a lot of cigarettes when I was younger and I HATEDDDDDD the smell and she would wanna hug me all the time and I would get so pissed like gtf away from me LOL i'm sure that probably made her feel like she was failing as a mother but 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Synastry: Chiron person may feel too smothered or saturn person feels like they aren't being met in the middle. Saturn may feel like they are always having to help Chiron. Chiron shutting themselves off because they feel smothered may actually create more wounds.
It was a thing when I was younger that other people would be pleading on my behalf for her to stop kissing my face and they would say leave her alone you're gonna make her smell like spit lmao you can imagine how little libra me felt omg like DYING and the help thing was kind of controlling where she would act like I couldn't do basic things as in i'm literally 7 and she's asking do you need me to feed you??? girl no lmao tf
Overall none of this was surprising and i didn't doubt it would show up in the astrology lol but I am shocked at the 10 oppositions bc that's insane!! TEN??? Imagine the worst day of your life comes alive LMAO jk I don't think that was the worst day of her life fr but choices were made repeatedly in 30 years that led us to this point of no return! She has a 7H saturn in Aries at 0° so she’s going through her second saturn return right now. Will she finally go to therapy and learn how to not be narcissistic?? 🤷🏾♀️ will she stop taking advantage of her family’s generosity?? 🤷🏾♀️















