fear of vulnerability...
What do we mean by vulnerability?
Vulnerability is the ability to let ourselves be affected by what is happening, it has to do with being sensitive, feeling emotions, recognizing them and being in them.
Vulnerability is not weakness.
Vulnerability is healthy and necessary, it allows us to connect with ourselves and with others. Yes, it is true that we live in a society where vulnerability is not positively acknowledged, where we are constantly receiving messages encouraging us to be strong, not be afraid, not ashamed, to be able to do anything and fighting against our own vulnerability... A society where competition and individualism have a place... With all this we try to hide or eliminate vulnerability from our lives.
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What we don't realize is that when we deny our vulnerability, we are denying part of our emotions, we are denying ourselves.
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How do we defend ourselves against vulnerability?
Throughout our lives we learn different ways to defend ourselves against our vulnerabilities, not all people are healthy in them.
These defenses are usually built through experiences of vulnerability, either early or in adolescence. That they couldn't see it, they mocked us, embarrassed us when we express it, ultimately made us feel like we weren't worthy of love or valid when we expressed it.
One of the biggest defenses is emotional disconnection, trying not to feel anything, putting up barriers against our pain, fear, and all those uncomfortable emotions.
What happens when we try not to feel is that we will with all the emotions.
For example: when I go to the dentist and they numb me for a tooth, I don't feel the pain, but I don't feel it either when they kiss my cheek or stroke me.
Avoidance and denial are also defense mechanisms that block vulnerability.
Anger, guilt, shame, and self-demanding are other of the most common defenses when we feel uncomfortable, desire to be in another state of mind that we are not, or become angry, blame, or feel ashamed that we are not "going well".