#separitism

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Comic on why separatism is important for the success of Radical Feminism

Rough Work In Progress

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"When you're having an argument with a boy about feminism and realize nothing you say will ever get through to them bc they don't feel empathy for something they've never experienced"

reason #10000 why separatism should be a fundamental part of radical feminism

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Comic on why separatism is important for radical feminism (revised)

still wip

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under kkofin's post

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I was curious about anti-separatists, so I loosely went through the blogs belonging to married women on radblr. Here are the trends I noticed:

they're late 20's to mid 40's

they haven't had a job or social life since they married their husband

they are completely isolated from the outside world

they're agoraphobic and have no friends outside their husbands

they struggle with mental health and often were diagnosed with disorders like anxiety, depression, obesity and OCD

the symptoms for these disorders manifested sometime in the period of isolation that occurred after marrying their husbands.

they learned about radical feminism after marriage Alot of their lives vary, but the biggest pattern I've noticed is social isolation that occurred after marrying their husband. Alot of them are recovering, but even according to them, it took more than a decade to casually leave the house. it feels like something Charlotte Perkins Gilman wrote. the more they self-isolate, the more dependent they become. After marrying, in time, they fall into roles subliminally intended by the patriarchy. dependent and isolated and enable to escape a cycle that having a husband guarantees

and they stay with them bc they're "nice" and they feel guilty because they're so dependent on them. So, they stay loyal to the cause of their problems, and thus the cycle continues.

edit: this is specifically about married women on radblr. not just average anti separatists with boyfriends

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how anti-separatists sound:

"Separatism doesn't work, not enough people practice it"

then practice it.

"Separatism is for lesbians"

you're not immediately 6b9t just because you're a lesbian. they can be heteronormative too and that's very bad. Its also just a random excuse to be lesbiphobic bc what do they have to do with you. especially weird that this excuse almost exclusively comes from bisexuals which makes even less sense

"we can't help that we're osa"

you CAN choose not to date, just like you choose WHO to date. there's virtually no excuse if you're bisexual

"you are denying women companionship" straight ppl get so whiney, but they banned gay marriage for the past millennia. dating is an artifice constructed by men to own women. why else do you think dating immediately results in dedicating your life to him? get a cat or something. get a friend. You are born alone and you seemed to do fine.

"there are good men out there"

study found that 100% of men in the study felt resentment towards their girlfriends when they succeeded btw

100% of men

all men. all men hate it when you do anything that resembles autonomy

your boyfriends hate you or don't see you as human

and no, this obviously doesn't count for women who are forced to date men, coerced to, threatened to, or groomed to. duh

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separatist stickers I found online

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TikTok | emma grace people in the comments are warning her, but she refuses to listen. it's so sad to watch another person throw her life away because she didn't take the warnings from other women seriously

literally one of them:

commenter: "not you deflecting when there’s people here telling you to focus on yourself because they’ve gone through it 😭"

op : "And people die in car wrecks everyday and you get in your car. We where planning on getting married anyway but now we have to have a courthouse wedding to start my clearance to go to Japan asap which we would've god forbid preferred to have an actual ceremony with our friends and family"

the amount of cognitive dissonance is crazy. People use cars because they have to, they don't dedicate their life and move to Japan to be with their car