Jul 27, 2018
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Being kind and helpful on a casual basis
Ask first. Particularly if it involves physical contact. Very few people consider "reaching over and taking something from them" to be kind. It's not hard. "I've done this before can I give you advice" is not hard to say. Don't presume anyone engrossed in their work wants help just because you've done it before.
Don't mind read. Don't presume you know what the person you intend to help knows or is doing. You're probably wrong and they probably have their reasons for doing it their way. You won't know until you ask (see point 1). And telling people what they already know or giving advice that doesn't pertain to their specific situation is unhelpful at best. Someone waiting is probably waiting for you to go away so they can focus Not waiting for you to do the job for them.
Don't walk into a new situation and tell people what they've done. If you're wrong you're going to look like a pratt.
If the person you're trying to help is getting pissed off you're probably not welcome. And are not being kind. Back off and maybe listen if they tell you what's not working.
If you're told multiple times that your insistence on intruding and telling other people what they're doing and not listening to their side of things is an issue the correct response is probably not to tell that person they just don't know how to take criticism Particularly when they seem to take it fine from everyone else.
One of my biggest fears is just... people getting bored of me and dropping out of my life, but coupled with my increasing anxiety that it's going to be harder to talk to people in the US I'm just... gonna try and stay busy for a bit.
Tfw your dentist is convinced you don't know how to look after your teeth when in reality you're just depressed and couldn't remember to look after your teeth if Chip Skylark himself crashed through your window twice a day to remind you in song.
You'd still be like sure I'll do that in a minute
And then immediately forget because life is empty and nothing matters
When you’re all riled up to work on commissions but not enough people have gotten back to you for you to keep going for more than half the day *vibrates*
On the other hand my rent is already covered and I’ve got a bunch of big one to do! Yay!
Man I am having some really bad episodes of self doubt and resentment at the moment... Hope they pass sooner rather than later...
Tfw you’re tired all the time, and you realise you’ve not been going to bed until really late for ages, and you wonder why, go to bed early and have nightmares all night like oooooooh I remember now. I’m exhausted no matter what I do, that’s right.
Nearly have somewhere sorted out to stay but I’m reminded mainly of how much I want my Own place, I hope things stabilise soon.
I’m also suffering terribly from that specific loneliness you get from being stuck around people you’d rather have time away from while the people you want to be with are away.
I feel... all wrong, kind of fake.