Is your muse the type to fall in love from having sex or to leave it be?
There are so few verses in which this muse lets things be. If he's intimate with another muse enough to fuck them, love is often a requirement. He needs a modicum of familiarity, even when drunk, a complete understanding that Ren, especially Ben, hopes will instinctively form so he doesn't have to work at it. For Star Wars verses, mutual respect must precede sex. In all verses, trust is paramount. Kylo Ren doesn't put his hands on anything he doesn't trust. He can do anything at all from a distance.
Music!Ben is similar in that regard; his image is powerful, so he can hone almost everything about himself into a guileful tool, his body, his words, his music, the mere idea of himself—even the batshit bad shit.* He's the only modern variant with an active and healthy* sex life, the only one taking you home to tease you with toys and then nibble on your earlobe and quite possibly hold you all night like he loves you. Even then, if all goes well, he'll want another round sometime. He'll think up a new game to play.
Ex-Con!Ben would most likely 'let things be,' if 'let things be' means 'letting the part of you that died stay dead.'
Intimacy is painful for him. Vulnerability too raw to suffer. One touch and something might fall apart.











