2/2 people but I really want her to be happy. I just feel so helpless. My parents want to support her too but I don't know how much she tells them even though they're pretty close. Do you have any tips?
hey love. i’m really sorry to hear that your sister is having such a difficult time. i think it’s important for you to accept that you can’t save her or protect her from everything - she’ll have bad experiences, some that you can’t prevent. so all you have to do is help her through them as much as you’re able to. keep her talking, keep your relationship with her strong and healthy. show her that you genuinely care. let her know that you’re here and that you’ve been where she’s been. you had to go through that by yourself, but she doesn’t because she’s got you and that’s really going to make all the difference for her. it might sound cheesy and awkward to actually have the conversation with her, but it’s crucial that she knows that she’s not alone. maybe she’ll shrug it off or roll her eyes, and maybe she wont - either way, it’ll mean a lot to her. being 13 is fucking terrible for most people and she’s probably just trying to navigate it as best she can. she’s still so young, and if you continue to encourage her and to instill a positive mindset into her, then she’ll probably come out of her shell in time. ask her about about her hobbies or the things she likes to do and maybe think about joining a class or a group with her or something . even just spending more time together and bonding so she’s able to open up to you and to get shit off her chest is a good place to start. make the conscious effort to be there for her and to be a decent example, and she’ll start to absorb it. tell your parents you’re worried about her as far as school and her overall happiness goes, bc they have more influence over her friendships and her mental health than you do. maybe they could get her to talk to a counselor or go to some sort of community center to meet other kids that have been through something similar? there are a lot of ways to show her that she has a real network of support. just don’t push her too much. let her make her own choices and her own mind up, but make it clear that she has many options and that she’s going to get through it. i know it’s horrible to feel so helpless, to see someone you love go through a difficult period. i’ve been there, and it’s one of the most frustrating things ever, but all you can do is try. if you’re doing that, then you’re doing enough. see what your parents can do for her, and then be by her side every step of the way. she’ll be okay. it’s just going to take some time, patience and effort. i hope you’re good, i’m always here if you need someone to talk to. just message me anytime.
